i hata my husband

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:khumar:

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Seeing as you are a woman, this is the only side of the story we have heard. I am sure you are not an angel, and aren't telling or are exaggerating about plenty of things.

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oh my... dear lily... pls dun worry, u r NOT abnormal... i have felt the same way many times... and i m married... i dun understand y the ppl here are sayin ... haawww haaiiii, she hates her hubby and crap... u dunno what she mst be goin thru.. its so easy to say how can u hate him and blah blah... sometimes husband and even wife, can do many things that can make the spouse hate them.. but only when they r treating them extremely harshly. most of the fights i have had were because of in laws ... (and u wudnt believe, i live alone with my hubby since 3 yrs but still somethin wud come up and we wud argue)... now i have learnt my lesson and have realle lessened talkin abt in laws... in 90 percent desi cases, marriage prbs are becus of in laws issues.... if the husband is not supportive... even the best wife can go crazy.. my own cousin has been married since 10 yrs and literally lickin her MIL feet, puttin oil in her hair, serving food and what dus she get? her hubby tells her if u wanna do you do it, but its not like i m askn u! such a pig! instead of worshippin this cousin of mine, he says stuff that shows hes just plain thankless and anyway, he didnt say that, so he is ungrateful...
divorce is not an option ... only in extreme cases... i so wanna hug u rite now, pls dun worry... and try to find a solution to this prb... even my husband says tum hum family ke mamlay mat bolo... u r not our family!!! only cus i m obsessed with my privacy and dun like sharin him with anyone... jeez.... i can b v possessive.... :P anyway... relax, ure not alone

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^Classic example of a desi husband…

What does this mean? “Seeing as you are a woman”? Because she is a woman, she is the one at fault here? This is exactly the kind of response men should NOT be giving.

Maybe its a good thing desi husbands grow potbellies…they never say anything useful and wives end up stuffing them silly just so they dont have to hear them.

:smack:

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Re: i hata my husband

Suck it up

:chai:

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And YOU get the award for ::::: Having Absolutely Nothing Useful To Say!

:bizz:

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99% of Pakistani women do that why not she :chai:

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i guess nobody out there feels the way i feel makes me think im abnormal
if there is even one person out there who has this feeling then plz contact me i would like to share the whole story personally i dont wanna go waaa waaaa publically bec sirf wohi samajh sakta hai jis kay dil par beetti hai nobodyelse
he doesnt beat me doesnt abuse me but pricks me where it hurts most

I did poorly, got an A instead of A+ as I bombed the final
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NaMaan,

If that is your attitude, Im pretty sure you’re making someone very miserable or will make someone very miserable.

Second, just because its happening doesnt make it right. Im pretty sure if your sister, mother or daughter was going through this, you would have something other than “suck it up” to say to them.

:nono1:

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So I guess you opened this thread just to recruit some "rants against in laws and husbands club" ?
If not then provide the answer to the questions I have asked in post # 2 so that you can get the advice suited to your situation which will help you improve the things.

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Im just wondering why the title reads ‘I hata my husband’ :konfused:

agar hata diya hay tau complain kis baat ki :mad:

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You are not abnormal Lilly, you just need to get smart. You're being ganged up on and you dont know how to fight back. This is not something you can talk out with your husband. He will think you are complaining and trying to poison him against his family.

You have to be careful what you say and what you do. Remember: Har lardai us hi vaqt nahin lardi jati. Kuch bad ke liye bhi chordete hein. Apparently, these in-laws of yours are really good at this and make sure your husband is around at all the right times...when they want to make you look bad. Start fighting fire with fire. Instead of getting pareshaan in front of him, stay quiet.

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Life is a cruel thing. Will beat u down to pieces unless you don’t have enough courage to stand up and say “I CAN and I WILL”.

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Perhaps u need a mini-break lilly, you shud try and talk to him about it and let him know that u're always the one compromisng and giving-in to the whims of u're in-laws. No one else wud be able to relate to u here, u urself have to sit him down and give him facts. NO girl wud take insults when it comes to her family and u shud make that known to him. He has to respect u and u're family too..

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do u think the only way of fighting back is staying quiet and having no reaction i told him lets move out v can afford it but he wont simply wont listen will prove me wrong even when im right yeh bebasi ki jang kab tak chaley gi

can any of u advice how to fight back

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omg tigerlilly, u r in the same sitiation as my mother was for soo many years. I had to grow p in the most terrible circumstances.....and evrytime i would see such things happening..my bloodd would boil..even at a young age i would start hating my dadial..

pm me if u wanna talk. trust me. u have to solve this for the sake of ur child. I can help you. It fell to me as a child to solve a lot of this nonsense. I dunt wanna share wit every1 buh i think i can srsly help u.

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I’m just saying…ts too juicy/good to be true.

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I katta my wife.

We are in the same boat.

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LOL

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U guys are terrible :no:

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