i have been married for 5 yrs i have a son.My problem is that at this stage i have actually starting hating my husband believe me i find him repulsive HEs always cornered me out always wanted me to lick her mothers feet she abuses me my parents openly behind and infront of her son his brothers and sis do the same thing and my husband only says that its ok u should be the one to compromise u r the outsider aur tum ney hi hamaray dil jeetney hain believe me people im fed up now i cant take it now and i really really truely hate my husband Am i being abnormal or r there any more of u who share the same prob??????/
No, by the looks of the topics in life1, i think youre pretty normal...average infact.
I think your husband is seriously mistaken in thinking that you as an 'outsider' should be making all the compromises here. He and his mother ought to know, its not easy for a woman to leave her family and live under the command of relatively ajnabi folks. That is one of biggest sacrifice in her life that she will make and it should never be taken for granted either by the husband or by his mother.
If anything, there should be more of a compromise on the husbands part to accomodate the wife's needs inorder for her to adjust properly. And that means respecting the wifes concerns and standing up for her, even if its involved your mother. After all that, if he cant do that much for you, he's not really worthy of being called a husband.
what you need to do is compose a list of all the issues you have and how it makes you feel and hand it over to him, and then when you have time you can both sit down and talk over any possible solutions from both sides. That way you can find out how comitted to the marriage he really is and if he is actually worth his salt.