I know it is shameful and even disgraceful as a parson and esp as a Muslim but when we come back from assignments away from home bored and tired, we get the uncontrollable sexual excitement. Nearly all ppl in my profession get the same feelings. So it happened when we came back yesterday evening and I came home to see her sitting in my room working on my pc. Unfortunately there was no one at home either and she was waiting for my sister…….holding hands went to kissing and lead to a session of passionate lovemaking…..now I am worried donno what is gonna happen to us if anyone found out about it we will be damned to leave our families what my broz and sistrz will think of me.. ….we were delaying the marriage ourselves but now its different……. its GOT to happen and FAST…….HELP PLEEEZZZ
Well I was damn shocked to hear this crap from my colleague but hell hez askin for help …ill do all I can and he may get outa this in one piece but all this gives me plenty to think about…….
ok so at least ur saying that it was a wrong thing to do considering ur a muslim!!!
the main thing that i can say to u is now is that u offer repentence from Allah, the Prophet tells “if anyone falls in a punishable offense and punished in the dunya that will be the expiation for him. If not his crisis is left to Allah, if He wills, He will punish him or if He wills, He will forgive him”, Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim
As long as you are sincere in your repentance, Allah Almighty will accept your Tawbah (Repentance) and forgive you your sins.
so after sinning, you should not feel despair. Rather you should forward sincere repentance to Allah and rest assured that Allah Almighty will forgive ur sin, as long as ur repentance meets the following conditions of sincerity:
1-First of all, you must admit the guilt, knowing the impermissibility of the act you have done.
2-You ought to feel remorseful for the sinful deed. This indicate that, deep down your heart, you feel sorry for that mistake.
3-You must make resolution that you will never look back, i.e. you must enter into a sincere covenant with your Lord that you have totally closed those dark pages, and you will never open them again.
May Allah guide you to the straight path and direct you to that which pleases Him, Amen.
^mad scientiest we are not all role models for self control and we all mess up. what they did was wrong but they are also humans.
I think it would be for the best for him to get married. If he’s at a stage where he can not keep his desires in check, while at the same time he knows its wrong to have sex outsided marriage, then he really should get married instead of doing something wrong and feeling guilty over it. He will learn to adjust to his new responsibilities with time (i.e. if the reason for the delay in marriage was that he thought he wasn’t ready for marriage.)
You know there are people starving in Africa and here you are worrying about doing the nookie. Knight Rider, ask him if he had a good time. If he did, tell him to do it again and keep his parents adn brothers and sister out of his sexual life. They will be married, so what;s the big whup!
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You know there are people starving in Africa and here you are worrying about doing the nookie. Knight Rider, ask him if he had a good time. If he did, tell him to do it again and keep his parents adn brothers and sister out of his sexual life. They will be married, so what;s the big whup!
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why don't you start that good work and stop looking down at people and instead of "partying" after closing deals send the money to Africa?
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Is she is ur fiance, then marry her! I mean whats the harm in marrying her a little early?
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I agree. If they are Muslim some are already did their nikkah so no harm in that. However, they are still getting married, so I guess there isnt really much harm in that, I mean what is done is done, this guy should not have kissed and told!
well it might be an embarrassment if she gets preg which is the only way anyone will find out. in order to avoid that getting married earlier would be the best thing to do. however, this might raise a few questions. but if she is not going to get preg, then doing nikah with her (w/o) letting anyone know could be another option.
sometimes God might understand..however ppl won't.
I know a girl who slept with her fiance then she did get preg. They ended up getting married sooner then they planned. No one knew, but when they were only married for 5 month and had a child it kinda gives you a clear vision huh?
But yeah I have heard stories like this many times. Just get married sooner.
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No one knew, but when they were only married for **5 month* and had a child it kinda gives you a clear vision huh?
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they were late in getting married. several months that is
