Re: I had a big argument with future-in-laws
The Quran doesn't make silly statements like This one person has total RIGHT over this other person. No one but God has a right over you, and that much is clear in the Quran. As humans, the Quran asks us to be tolerant and kind to one another. Its mutual.
Therefore, statements such as Husband has total control over wife, or wife has to be totally obedient to husband are not in accordance with the Quran. It depends on the situation, and it depends on the circumstances. Regardless, everyone should treat everyone else with respect, and Islam gives a woman the right to REFUSE a proposal in a situation where she feels she will be unhappy.
That much is simple. There is no need for a woman to take abuse lying down, and nothing in Islam that suggests you should. You are unhappy with a situation, then either fix it or get out.