I’m gonna need to put my feminist topi on and ask why are so many threads based on Hadiths directed towards women? AND most of those are started by men too. Shocking. I know.
You know, the don’t forget to wear hijab because a boy is gonna look at you. OMG.
Or make-up. Your eye shadow is gonna speak on the day of judgment. Better not wear it.
It seems men don’t have many Hadiths (or no one cares to read them) to follow, but they’re pretty quick to point out what women should do.
It's funny because I see many beardless Muslim males who require or expect their wives to wear khimar or other headgear variants, but this expectation is not reciprocated by the women - very rarely do I hear or see a woman expecting or requiring her husband to grow a beard ...
Why?
Well the answer is quite basic really .... men take pleasure in beholding beauty through a sense of their own delight, whereas women take pleasure in seeing the desirous reaction of others in what they possess. It is our nature ...
Likewise not all but the majority of women want to look trendy and want their hubby's to look trendy - men get away with not having to look as religious as their khimari wives because their wives although wear what they are expected to wear DO NOT for some reason expect the same level from their husbands ... I think this is a greater problem. When will women start to put Islamic standards for their men to meet instead of allowing them to be players.
While I partly agree with your sentiments Gaia, maybe some men want their wives etc to be more mindful of their dress/behaviour etc etc because it is the wife who encourages their hubbies to be more 'religious' - i.e. leading by example?
.... men take pleasure in beholding beauty through a sense of their own delight, whereas women take pleasure in seeing the desirous reaction of others in what they possess. It is our nature ...
Likewise not all but the majority of women want to look trendy and want their hubby's to look trendy - men get away with not having to look as religious as their khimari wives because their wives although wear what they are expected to wear DO NOT for some reason expect the same level from their husbands ... I think this is a greater problem. When will women start to put Islamic standards for their men to meet instead of allowing them to be players.
So you're saying women are more concerned with worldly validation and glory, then are men. That would mean men are more pious and religious than women, acha - thank you for enlightening us.
Men are very quick to point out what a woman should and should be wearing/doing/saying… the list goes on and on..
A women has the choice to make her own decision, I remember watching a documentary on the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) there was a part which mentioned why ladies were asked to cover in front of men that were strangers to them. In the time of the prophet the prophet (pbuh) use to spend a lot of time at the Masjid which was a social place where people of all religions and backgrounds were welcomed… this meant that men from different tribes that were from the Kuffar use to also come. Take this into consideration our prophet (pbuh) asked the ladies to cover and stay in a different room to these men to avoid bad rumours… basically so the men could not accuse the women of any bad doing…
Now a days that has been blown way out of proportion, its more to do with fashion or control…
So you're saying women are more concerned with worldly validation and glory, then are men. That would mean men are more pious and religious than women, acha - thank you for enlightening us.
Peace Sehrysh
Not at all ... I already said that there are more couples where the woman wears Islamic garb and the husband does not ... so how can that mean the men are more Islamically inclined?
No ... I mean the SAME level of expectation thrown at women should be thrown at men rather than women complaining about their expectations by men they should hold their men up to the same expectations - why should it be that ... a lot of Muslim women are made to feel cautious so they don't end up offending their husbands, but many are cautious enough anyway but not vice-versa? In general both kinds of women are only cautious for themselves and they are not pressing enough on their husbands - I say if a man makes his wife feel "Islamically cautious" then for sure she should make him feel like that too ... Of course she is being a better Muslim because she is being strict on herself but lenient on her husband ... But if there is a complaint about men being too harsh - then the women need to be harsher too.
I see many beardless Muslim males who require or expect their wives to wear khimar or other headgear .
I heard that there are Muslim men who are so hung up on finding a virgin wife that even after they get married, they make sure that she remains virgin.
It's funny because I see many beardless Muslim males who require or expect their wives to wear khimar or other headgear variants, but this expectation is not reciprocated by the women - very rarely do I hear or see a woman expecting or requiring her husband to grow a beard ...
Why?
Well the answer is quite basic really .... men take pleasure in beholding beauty through a sense of their own delight, whereas women take pleasure in seeing the desirous reaction of others in what they possess. It is our nature ...
Likewise not all but the majority of women want to look trendy and want their hubby's to look trendy - men get away with not having to look as religious as their khimari wives because their wives although wear what they are expected to wear DO NOT for some reason expect the same level from their husbands ... I think this is a greater problem. When will women start to put Islamic standards for their men to meet instead of allowing them to be players.
… He said he’s being rude … I asked “who?” , he said the one who said “stupid Muslim males”