So you know how it goes. A few months back, I had to turn down this girl who I had met at a networking event. She had asked me out to coffee to discuss her “career.” She works in PR, I am in Banking, so I figured that this was more about a career change, but it turned out to be much more than that.
Usually I keep a friendly but distant vibe when I am rolling out at the clubs, but I had guard down because this was supposed to be a professional event. So anyways we met up at a cafe on a Saturday afternoon, I got my non fat double shot latte no sugar and was reading the Wall Street Journal, when she arrives 5 minutes late and with no resume, or portfolio dressed in jeans and casual top, while I was returning from a 3 city trip so I was wearing the 2 button navy Brioni (no tie) and my mezlan hiltons. Anyways she sits down (*more like plops down) and starts talking about her week. I let the monologue continue for 5 minutes until I ask her about what this meeting was about? At that point she must’ve realized that I was all business so she came up with some weak excuse about PR in I-Banking, which made no sense because everything is done in house. In any case, I had realized that this was not meeting to discuss her career but rather some type of a twisted date.
The sad part is that she is an attractive girl and I am sure gets asked out a lot. But I told her that I don’t date and wouldn’t be interested in her in that way. I was tired so I headed home. I figured it was all done..
Fast forward 2 months later, I get an email from her asking for “help” contacting another coleague of mine. Mind you, she knows this dude more than I do, yet she somehow wanted me to get in touch with him and get his contact info (she has his email). So I am get her game (its pretty weak), either she is trying to start something with an excuse to contact me or soemhow trying make me jeolous. Either way, I am not into any of her freakish games, I woudl rather tell her that I don’t know this guy well enough. Any advice? I mean I don’t want to be mean, after all its not the girls fault for digging pK-one
I don’t date madam. If I did, believe me I would have gone for a girl that I liked not some manipulative chick who wasted my time.
But still, should I just email her saying that “you know him more than I do” and “have a good life” of course I’ll b nicer than that but I usually don’t mess up and lead people on.
See, in situations like this where you're plainly not interested but dont want to hurt the person's feelings...its best to play dumb. I just make it seem like I have no clue and eventually they go away.
Send her the contact info, say good luck and thats it!
I wouldn't give the contact info even if it's just an email address of someone working in the same firm as me, specially to a weirdo, I would if it were work related but obviously is not. I'd reply to her and tell her politely that she knows him better so she should get in touch with him on her own.
See, in situations like this where you're plainly not interested but dont want to hurt the person's feelings...its best to play dumb. I just make it seem like I have no clue and eventually they go away.
Send her the contact info, say good luck and thats it!
Good idea. The thing is that I don' have any more contact info than she does. All I have is an email/phone number. But I'll do it.
I wouldn't give the contact info even if it's just an email address of someone working in the same firm as me, specially to a weirdo, I would if it were work related but obviously is not. I'd reply to her and tell her politely that she knows him better so she should get in touch with him on her own.
That's just it! I mean I have the guys business info but I KNOW she has his card and has talked ith him once in a while...so this whole thing was pretty strange and I immediately suspected that she was playing a game.
I'll talk to the other guy tomorrow just to give him a heads up..if he's interested in her, then he should go for it.
mehh shes jst trying to find a way to get to u.. ignore ka button dabaoo or soo jaao..
and plus if ur not into dating etc.. then i dnt think this shud even bother the slightest bit of u!
shes an attention seeker and since she didnt get any the first time she tried to twist up a little and try again!
pak-one, if you really aren't interested then you need to just cut off right now. Don't communicate with her further, at all. She is clearly interested and any response from your part will suggest some possiblity.
You probably don't want to hurt her feelings but you wil not be doing any favors to her by talking.
You'll get over it.
Buttttttttttttttt, if you think she's nice, I say go for it. Why should you be so rigid? You don't have to do anything unethical or wrong.
pak-one, if you really aren't interested then you need to just cut off right now. Don't communicate with her further, at all. She is clearly interested and any response from your part will suggest some possiblity.
You probably don't want to hurt her feelings but you wil not be doing any favors to her by talking.
You'll get over it.
Buttttttttttttttt, if you think she's nice, I say go for it. Why should you be so rigid? You don't have to do anything unethical or wrong.
I don't date madam. If I did, believe me I would have gone for a girl that I liked not some manipulative chick who wasted my time.
But still, should I just email her saying that "you know him more than I do" and "have a good life" of course I'll b nicer than that but I usually don't mess up and lead people on.
So you know how it goes. A few months back, I had to turn down this girl who I had met at a networking event. She had asked me out to coffee to discuss her "career." She works in PR, I am in Banking, so I figured that this was more about a career change, but it turned out to be much more than that.
Usually I keep a friendly but distant vibe when I am rolling out at the clubs, but I had guard down because this was supposed to be a professional event. So anyways we met up at a cafe on a Saturday afternoon, I got my non fat double shot latte no sugar and was reading the Wall Street Journal, when she arrives 5 minutes late and with no resume, or portfolio dressed in jeans and casual top, while I was returning from a 3 city trip so I was wearing the 2 button navy Brioni (no tie) and my mezlan hiltons. Anyways she sits down (*more like plops down) and starts talking about her week. I let the monologue continue for 5 minutes until I ask her about what this meeting was about? At that point she must've realized that I was all business so she came up with some weak excuse about PR in I-Banking, which made no sense because everything is done in house. In any case, I had realized that this was not meeting to discuss her career but rather some type of a twisted date.
The sad part is that she is an attractive girl and I am sure gets asked out a lot. But I told her that I don't date and wouldn't be interested in her in that way. I was tired so I headed home. I figured it was all done..
Fast forward 2 months later, I get an email from her asking for "help" contacting another coleague of mine. Mind you, she knows this dude more than I do, yet she somehow wanted me to get in touch with him and get his contact info (she has his email). So I am get her game (its pretty weak), either she is trying to start something with an excuse to contact me or soemhow trying make me jeolous. Either way, I am not into any of her freakish games, I woudl rather tell her that I don't know this guy well enough. Any advice? I mean I don't want to be mean, after all its not the girls fault for digging pK-one :D
you when girls get rejected, they want to prove you that they are not worthless.
This very pretty/hot-girl at the gym want some thing from me.
When It turned me off the way she kept comimg.
I use to work at the plaza in-front of gym.
she picked up some dude and brought him there. I mean what for??? I am not into ur...
Crazy creature they are.
