Re: I gave badwa
Umm…hold up a second. Let’s focus on the current issue. Your mom is very ill, are you bothered by this? If so…then you can even choose to visit your mom without your kids…or keep the kids at a distance for now. It doesn’t have to be that removing the kids from the picture also means removing yourself. You can meet your mom without the kids. You can talk to her without the kids. As for your 2-month-old…she’s a baby…she won’t be able to understand whether her naani-ma calls her by a Muslim name…or whether she calls her Kuljeetay. So you just might be able to visit with the baby and have you son stay with his dad instead or have your husband watch both kids for a short while…thus allowing you to spend time with her.
I understand the importance and even necessity of keeping kids away from certain influences within the family…but even with that one has to be reasonable…and not veer off to a black n white extreme. In other words, you pick and choose your battles. Your mom will always be your mom. And if you fear that her health may worsen and that in the future you might regret not being there for her…then you can still interact with her to an extent and keep kids at a distance. Again, keeping the kids away…does not necessitate that you, too, must stay away from your parents, too.