I feel stuck stuck stuck

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Re: I feel stuck stuck stuck

@spoko

i asked him and he told me that he did not care and that is why i decided to go ahead and have them made myself. he, in turn, lied to his mom saying that he wanted to make bidh boxes but i wouldn’t let him do it. same with the photographer. i called him and asked him to check the photographer out but he refused so i went ahead and hired him, and then he got mad and told his mom that i never even asked him before hiring a photographer.

I totally missed this post of yours! Okay, wait a min now, you need to STOP worrying about this izzat BS and know that your izzat is in making the correct decision for yourself. Not in ruining your life over a mere function that has been ‘booked’…if it makes you feel any better, i was in the exact same position as you, and i called it OFF!..just a few weeks prior to my wedding. If you know this is not for you, you need to be sure of it, bc if you cant be, no one else can. My family was very concerned about me taking that step, but with time they realized my decision was right.

But, have you confronted him with asking why he lied to his mother about the photography deal? Why he said he doesnt care? Are you sure he ‘doesnt care’ about the bidh, or he doesnt care about the nikkah happening altogether? Or is he just being difficult to talk to and theres becoming a communication gap? Bc if that is the case, then, im sorry, but i want to ask you do you know how interested this guy is in this nikkah taking place? Are you sure this is something he wants? His behavior seems as if he is not totally comfortable. But you got to think more into it, are you sure his careless behavior is something recent? Or have there been traces of him being like this from the get-go? And, whats really fishy is, why is he worried about people finding about his nikkah happening!???

Its just the nikkah, if its too pressuring, just say you dont want this formal commitment just yet, and instead of breaking it off say you want to keep it the way its been for however long you guys have been together, and in that time sort things out. I mean its not the wedding, right? Then why take this step if you dont really have to just yet. (I mean to say why do the nikkah? If there is no real reason such as visa issues or whatnot, then why is a nikkah being done? Just to have something in place? If thats the case, nikkah isnt the answer! Esp in a situation that, god forbid, worsens, will result in a divorce.)