Re: I feel LONELY!
…Dont you worry now…We are all here:D
for you:)
Re: I feel LONELY!
awww, don’t worry…everything will b ok,
just try not to think that ur step-mum, doesn’t love u…How old is ur lil sis.?
And don’t forget we’r all here for u 
Re: I feel LONELY!
I am really very sorry to hear about your mommy.
All of us are your friends here, no doubt about that. You’ll find so much help and encouragement and the occasional smack of reality too! LOL. You seem to have a pretty full social life, its not like you’r retreating and not getting out.
But when you come home, you feel lonely because no one is waiting for you. Right? Eshaal, we only get one chance at life. Ive been thinking about it all day long. You’re definitely not to blame here for your step-mom not reaching out. But my suggestion to you is to try harder. Make her talk to you and bring your family together once again.
Maybe Allah swt put this ehsaas in your heart because He wants you to do something about it. Ever thought of it that way? These days could be spent laughing, making memories and valuing life.
Try harder with your step-mom and become the center of your family for your mother’s sake. Your step-mom will respect you more in the long run and your mother would be even more proud of you. 
I highly agree with Bon … very well said ..
Eshaal, so sorry to hear about the pain you have to deal with every day of living without your Mother. Losing a loved one like a Mother or Husband, is like experiencing one of the most severe crises in human existence - and I know this feeling very well! The grief lasts as our love for them lasts - but in time that grief naturally absorbs into us, our loved ones will live on in our hearts and we will get used to living with that pain of missing them.
You had to quickly grow up at 12 and take over everything - and I really admire you for that esp' for bringing up your little sister. I am sure when she is older she will look at you in a motherly way and love you even more for that, Inshallah.
Keep your siblings close to you and just try to enjoy your time at home. Carry on being kind to your step-mother and in time she will bring you close to her, Inshallah. Don't lose that hope! Lol.
The heart is miraculously capacious and you have dealt with so much. Get involved with lots of activites with friends to keep yourself distracted and why not think about marriage...? I think it will do wonders for you.
May Allah Talah swt give your Mother a place in Jannat, Inshallah and may he give you so much more patience and so much to look forward to Inshallah. :)
I want to give you a big big hug dear!
ooooooooo ehsaal, first of all donot take sleeping pills etc OAKY?.Listen ,I know life wasnot very smooth for you but i think now you are trying to depress yourself.
Listen go out,make good friends ,talk to people watch good movies i think you should start with "Hum aapke hain koun"Then watch kabhi khushi kabhi gham" lemme know i will suggest you more.:)
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyy
I think you should get married .Yes,trust me you wont feel lonely then after some years you will post a thread asking "I want to feel lonely,plz help"
Shaadi karlo,bache honge Haala gooola hoga ,Mauja mauja shaam savere hon baache hi baache.
I certainly agree with most of the things you said. I’ve been trying really hard to make a close relationship with my step-mom but unfortunately it never works. She told my sister that she’s not comfortable talking to me. I wonder why! I mean, I used to start conversation about all sort of things but all she used to do is nod or say one-word-answers (Yes, No). Then I stopped trying. I mean, I used to feel awkward when I didn’t use to get a response. We come home together mostly in car where we both are alone but we never talk. It’s always me taking the initiative. Her response is ‘Yes or No’. I feel really bad when she never replies. Makes it so much clear that she rather not talk about anything with me.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyy
I think you should get married .Yes,trust me you wont feel lonely then after some years you will post a thread asking "I want to feel lonely,plz help"
Shaadi karlo,bache honge Haala gooola hoga ,Mauja mauja shaam savere hon baache hi baache.
No shaadi for me before getting Masters degree! :)
I certainly agree with most of the things you said. I've been trying really hard to make a close relationship with my step-mom but unfortunately it never works. She told my sister that she's not comfortable talking to me. I wonder why! I mean, I used to start conversation about all sort of things but all she used to do is nod or say one-word-answers (Yes, No). Then I stopped trying. I mean, I used to feel awkward when I didn't use to get a response. We come home together mostly in car where we both are alone but we never talk. It's always me taking the initiative. Her response is 'Yes or No'. I feel really bad when she never replies. Makes it so much clear that she rather not talk about anything with me.
My heart goesout to you.
Ehsaal, i have become your great fan,really.No jokes.
Arey ,think like an optimist...Shaadi karo.
You like love your mom,if the reaction is opposite to goli maro na.
Its not your fault na.
No shaadi for me before getting Masters degree! :)
What ,you can get betrothed na?
Eshaal, so sorry to hear about the pain you have to deal with every day of living without your Mother. Losing a loved one like a Mother or Husband, is like experiencing one of the most severe crises in human existence - and I know this feeling very well! The grief lasts as our love for them lasts - but in time that grief naturally absorbs into us, our loved ones will live on in our hearts and we will get used to living with that pain of missing them.
You had to quickly grow up at 12 and take over everything - and I really admire you for that esp' for bringing up your little sister. I am sure when she is older she will look at you in a motherly way and love you even more for that, Inshallah.
Keep your siblings close to you and just try to enjoy your time at home. Carry on being kind to your step-mother and in time she will bring you close to her, Inshallah. Don't lose that hope! Lol.
The heart is miraculously capacious and you have dealt with so much. Get involved with lots of activites with friends to keep yourself distracted and why not think about marriage...? I think it will do wonders for you.
May Allah Talah swt give your Mother a place in Jannat, Inshallah and may he give you so much more patience and so much to look forward to Inshallah. :)
Thank you so much for your words.
I didn't want to discuss it here but I've told u guys quite a lot so why not share one more thing: Well, the shaadi question raised 4 days back when I got this 'rishta' stuff from some family friends of my step-mom. My father and brother were offended by it as they believe that I'm too young to get married. I mean, my plan is to get Masters degree first and then think of marriage and stuff. I wanna be independent so the rishta thing wasn't that important to me. Anyway, I didn't really like their view of 'me being too young'. Was I not young when I used to tie my sisters hair? Was I not too young when I used to make grocery lists at age 12? Was I not young when I used to shop for my sisters school uniform and school books? Was I not young when I used to attend my sister's parent-teacher meeting? Was I not young when I started peeling vegetables? Was I not young when I used to stay awake so that my sister could sleep before me as she had the habit of sleeping while hugging mummy? Did anyone ever hug me? Did anyone ever think if I'm asleep or crying in my bed! Now they think I'm young. How could they forget those times! Nobody remembers that stuff at all.
Thank you so much for your words. I didn't want to discuss it here but I've told u guys quite a lot so why not share one more thing: Well, the shaadi question raised 4 days back when I got this 'rishta' stuff from some family friends of my step-mom. My father and brother were offended by it as they believe that I'm too young to get married. I mean, my plan is to get Masters degree first and then think of marriage and stuff. I wanna be independent so the rishta thing wasn't that important to me. Anyway, I didn't really like their view of 'me being too young'. Was I not young when I used to tie my sisters hair? Was I not too young when I used to make grocery lists at age 12? Was I not young when I used to shop for my sisters school uniform and school books? Was I not young when I used to attend my sister's parent-teacher meeting? Was I not young when I started peeling vegetables? Was I not young when I used to stay awake so that my sister could sleep before me as she had the habit of sleeping while hugging mummy? Did anyone ever hug me? Did anyone ever think if I'm asleep or crying in my bed! Now they think I'm young. How could they forget those times! Nobody remembers that stuff at all.
WE all think you are not young ..im sure all will agree.
Itna emotional mat hooo na.
Ab jo hoa just forget it.Jitna yaad karo gey,utna dukh hoga.
Thank you so much for your words. I didn't want to discuss it here but I've told u guys quite a lot so why not share one more thing: Well, the shaadi question raised 4 days back when I got this 'rishta' stuff from some family friends of my step-mom. My father and brother were offended by it as they believe that I'm too young to get married. I mean, my plan is to get Masters degree first and then think of marriage and stuff. I wanna be independent so the rishta thing wasn't that important to me. Anyway, I didn't really like their view of 'me being too young'. Was I not young when I used to tie my sisters hair? Was I not too young when I used to make grocery lists at age 12? Was I not young when I used to shop for my sisters school uniform and school books? Was I not young when I used to attend my sister's parent-teacher meeting? Was I not young when I started peeling vegetables? Was I not young when I used to stay awake so that my sister could sleep before me as she had the habit of sleeping while hugging mummy? Did anyone ever hug me? Did anyone ever think if I'm asleep or crying in my bed! Now they think I'm young. How could they forget those times! Nobody remembers that stuff at all.
But Allah Ta'lah swt will always remember. :)
Yes, you were young when life changed dramatically for you and you were made to do all those things. May Allah Ta'lah swt reward you for your efforts, Inshallah.
You need to find ways to stay thinking positive and happy now. If you feel like crying in your room at night again - make a dua for your Mother, which she will receive and pray until you fall asleep. You are 21 now, and you will get your Masters degree by 23 - so still young! Lol. If marriage feels to early then you can continue with studies more or get a job until you feel ready. But be patient with Dad and Brother. Be proud of what you have achieved as you are such a smart student, Marshallah and you still managed to study through a difficult time.
Even though your Step-Mom and you have awkward, quiet moments together, still be patient and remain polite to her. If she doesn't make conversations or gives one-word answers than don't feel you have to keep the conversation going as it will just make you feel more awkward. Just enjoy a quiet trip in the car. Prehaps one day your Step-Mom will feel pleasure in her heart for you and the patience you always showed her. :)
Allah loves those who are patient. (A’le-Imraan 3/146)
Whats up?Hozz ur mom?:)
Oh its friday,you should watch "Ooye its friday".
Re: I feel LONELY!
^ How is whose Mum?! Or you mean her step-mom?
^ How is whose Mum?! Or you mean her step-mom?
yes yes,step-mom
Hey all, I am mostly a reader here. I hardly contribute. But after reading this space I believe that it might not be harmful to discuss my issue (if it is an issue).
I'm 21 and studying at a very good institute. I'm A+ student. My study life is the only good part of my life! My mother passed away when I was 12. My younger sister was 9 and my older brother was 19. My father re-married about 5 years back. My father loves us too too much. That's a really good thing. But I've been waiting for acceptance by my step-mom. She's nice and all. The best thing abt her is that she loves my baby sister. She's a good friend of my brother too. But when it comes to me, everything is one-sided. I mean, it was me who started building a friendly relationship with her but got no response. She's made it quite clear that she doesn't really like me. No doubt abt that.
I am just way too alone! My sister is like my child. I practically raised her. She talks to me abt everything. My brother also talks to me abt his stuff. My father is always too busy. My step-mom hardly talks to me (we only greet eachother n that's it). And I just wish that thr was someone at home who could just listen to me. I talk and someone listens. My sister never listens and she doesn't even understand my situation. I miss my mother sooooo much. Every girl needs a older woman's support. Nobody was ever there for me when I was growing up. Nobody told me what to do, what not to do, what to wear, how to do this n that. All my teenage life I lived with my mouth shut coz thr was noone. I've been living in my room since mummy died. I never go out. I don't watch TV. Nobody comes to my room and asks me to come out. I've been depressed for too long. Sleeping pills don't work. It feels like nobody knows I'm also alive. Did my best after mom's death...u know I used to look after the whole house when I was 12. Just don't know how to cope up with this emotional disturbance!
Awww - babe! You're totally right. Everyone needs someone who will listen to them and not judge....
I certainly agree with most of the things you said. I've been trying really hard to make a close relationship with my step-mom but unfortunately it never works. She told my sister that she's not comfortable talking to me. I wonder why! I mean, I used to start conversation about all sort of things but all she used to do is nod or say one-word-answers (Yes, No). Then I stopped trying. I mean, I used to feel awkward when I didn't use to get a response. We come home together mostly in car where we both are alone but we never talk. It's always me taking the initiative. Her response is 'Yes or No'. I feel really bad when she never replies. Makes it so much clear that she rather not talk about anything with me.
Eshaal,
Maybe she feels uncomfortable because you're an adult now and she might not feel the mother-daughter bond with you. Your sister sounds like she is younger so that may be an easier role to play for her. Regardless, it sounds like you've tried a lot and I admire you for that. It cant be easy. Dont worry about her not replying right now...you do your part.
Also, how is your relationship with your siblings? Are things okay on that front? YOu sound like you're close to your sister? That is a good thing! Plan family outings and interactions so you can get some quality time together. I know it might be a bit awkward at first but you have to start somewhere, right?