Re: I feel like im being forced to change, what shall i do>?
Ok i have to agree with the ones saying your husband asking you to dress islamically is not controlling. I had similiar arguments with my husband when we first got married and like you, i was defiant at first. Then i had to think if what he was asking me to do (i already wore hijab but he wanted me to wear long tops with pants/jeans etc, nthing too tight etc) was wrong somehow and it wasnt. LEts face it, in islam a woman is to cover herself appropriately (no short sleeves etc). Once i saw this, the decision was really easy to make.
What IS a red flag to me, is how you guys are counting the "compromises" you are doing for each other. You cannot keep track of such things in a healthy relationship. And you shouldnt, love should be unconditional.
I say if you are really uncomfortable with the way he wants his wife and cannot see yourself in that role, walk away now.