You both have some serious working out to do....before a marriage takes place. I've seen very religious women wear hijab AND jeans. It's no big deal. The jeans can be loose-fitting as well. I just wonder where is the line. Is there a boundary line. What about makeup? Will you be allowed to wear that? Jewelry? Or does the makeup need to be hidden behind a purdah? What about hair. Should it be short at all times. Or long and in a braid hanging down your back at all times. I understand compromise is necessary...but the key word in compromise is MUTUAL. Will you be allowed to work? Or will you strictly be at home. And too much of anything even compromise is not healthy. Have a discussion with him. There's a difference between compromise and control issues. There's a difference between guiding/teaching religion and forcing it.
no i will work and he doesnt care much for makeup/jewlry and no he didnt say parda...he doesnt mind that....only scarf on head and i refused, he let that go too ......but its just that whatever he lets me do something or doesnt, it feels like a mountain to climb, like i feel i needhis permission or appreciation or something and i feel elated when he lets me do stuff and depressed when he doest...life shouldnt be this tough right?I SAID TO HIM once that hes controlling and he said he isnt....whatever hes asking is relgious, but yes he read namaz and he knows a fair bit more than me....i wouldnt say he was THAT relgious though, hes certainly not some molvi...