a lot of us are married to people who have migrated here with their parents or maybe come across for education and stayed on.. so would you be offended if a friend of urs said to you, “oh i dont want to marry a fob.. i want someone from here..”?
I’m not offended as such, more i guess perplexed by someone’s views. What would make them say that knowing u are married to a so called “fob” (my bro however explains, in my marriage, im the fob :D)
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offended because she prefers to marry from here and not a FOB? no.
that is her opinion. nothing wrong with it. however if she said something negative about FOBS (especially if i was married to one) I would be offended.
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^ well thats what i mean.. if ur married to a so called "fob" would u be offended or think... "u've no idea what ur missing out on"
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Yes, I don't :D
I don't think there is anything to be offended about it. It is just personal prefrence just like when guys are say they don't want an abcd or a girl from abroad but one from back home.
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but when a guy says that, dont u cringe a lil and think.. "hellooo ur talking to an abcd?"
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If I was married to a FOB and someone called him a fob, I'd be pissed. It's poor social skills.
It's true, she has the right to her own preferences, but there are social rules and norms one should keep in mind.
Oh man, no one better say anything about my husband.
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^ thats what im getting at. If ur engaged/married to one.. wouldnt u be the least bit peeved?
I was
Everyone has the right to preferences, but it's not always appropriate to voice your opinions. For example some people are not attracted to darker skinned people, and that may be fine, but to say that IN FRONT of a dark skinned individual, is rude and inappropriate. It is no different when it comes to someone married to fob. They may laugh it off and not say anything to you in person- but be assured that everyone else thinks that you are a jerk for saying that and not taking into account another's feelings.
That said, always THINK before you speak. Many of these people that say stuff like genuinely mean no haraam, but DON"T THINK when they speak. It takes less then half a second to get words out, but you can NEVER take them back, no matter how much you wish you didn't say it.
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bah you guys are so stiff..in our social circle there are a number of guys who were not born here..married to girls who were born here, and we have a fob vs abcd jeopardy with questions for fobs and questions for abcds and if you pick a question from the other group's category you get double points. Everyone has a blast. its something we have been doing for last 7-8 years
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^ that sounds like an awesome game X2.. i would love that!
in my house i get classified as a fob who cant speak english..
honestly, yes i was offended when it happened a couple of years ago. Not now. If someone said it to me now, i wouldnt care.. but thats only cus ive changed in the past few years...
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On behalf of all my FOBs::
Did we even ask ?????
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ive had ppl say it to me to
in a jk manner
i brush it of
wut matters i guess is that the person u r marrying/married to is who u want to be with it
fob is such a mean word though
i have a friend who came here to study from pakistan n it actually hurts her wen ppl label her as one
its just mean to say to anyone
but i guess it happens everywhere
my fiance tells me that if i went to pak ppl would cal me a burger becuz i speak in english to much
If you're married to a so called FOB and your friend makes such a comment, then she's being tactless. While she may not be aware of what she's saying, yes, it can be perceived as being rude. A more tactful way of saying it could be, "I feel that I would have more of an understanding with a guy who has been brought up in the US."
If she doesn't want to marry a FOB, that's her preference. And she's entitled to her opinion.
Plus, in my opinion, the word FOB is kind of subjective. I've seen people born and raised in the US who possess paindu views....and might come across as "fobby". I've seen people who grew up in other countries where they've attended American schools, speak perfect unaccented English, and later on moved to the US, where they have been living for years, and have blended in so naturally that most native born Americans would never think that they're "FOBS." So are there degrees of fobbiness? Maybe, who knows? It's just soooo subjective. I guess what your friend means is that she'd be able to connect more with someone who has been born and raised in the US like herself. And there's nothing wrong with that. We all want someone that we are more likely to be compatible with.
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^ yeah same here in Aus :) we have people who have been living here for ages and are paindoo (me) and people who have done half their schooling in pak and then moved here with perfect english and the right attitude (hubby)..
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i rather marry a fob den a guy livin in pakistan
hmmmmmm i think not sure
i can change my mind n e tym
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redvelvet i call my bro in law a wanna be fob, he barely speaks any urdu but wants to be more desi than any desi I know :D
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kahan hai fob-ne....i'll marry her.
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X2, we know someone who is an actual gora but he is the biggest fob we know.. he roams around in shilwar kameez and at restaurants he'll get up and sing "kal ho na ho... " or something insanely bollywoodish...
X2, we know someone who is an actual gora but he is the biggest fob we know.. he roams around in shilwar kameez and at restaurants he'll get up and sing "kal ho na ho... " or something insanely bollywoodish...
that seems like the latest model of FOB...iFob -> indian FOB
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^ whoa there.
On a side note, guys who can pass as ABCDs, and can read Urdu → 