Thanks Anjana. I dont really know what to say. I've known him for nearly three years now but he never used to be like this. It's sad that he's changed so much (or maybe I have). I don't know. Iam so confused right now that I really dont know what to do. I've tried speaking to my mum but she takes his side which really annoyed me.
He has never stopped me from educating myself. He wants me to do a Phd! after I become a barrister yet he doesn't want to give up on the idea of having a perfect family as well. I think he lacks maturity in that respect because he has no idea how difficult it is to raise a child. I know because I see my sis and my bhabi do it and how much of a toll it has taken on them.
I don't think things look so good ahead but pulling out from the rishta purely on this basis is not an option for me. He hasn't mistreated me or been rude and I am sure this is a matter which can be resolved with the assistance of an impartial party. I am yet to find one.
no problem, i only wish there was more i cud say to help.
well, what does your mum have to say about this? in wat way is she taking his side? maybe her opinion makes sense, maybe it doesnt. she does realize that u are determiend to pursue education, right?
also, as far as lack of maturity on his part,.....does he see and realize what your sis and bhabi go through? wat are your sis and bhabis lifestyles like, are they also raising children AND going for education or is everything on hold for now while they are taking care of their children? if YES, then maybe u shud politely point this fact out to ur fiancee and give him real life examples of how hard (not impossible) but HARD it is to manage both kids and vigorous education. maybe once he sees it with his own eyes, it will give him a reality check.