So many girls here are trying to get pregnant (after marriage ofcourse) but I just don’t want it to happen once Iam married.
How do you explain that to someone who keeps pushing for kids and just doesn’t LISTEN.
I think he’s intimidating me like PCG said in another thread 
and I just dont see an end to the fights.
Re: I don’t want to get pregnant
… 
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
????
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
both of you need to come up with a compromise and talk it out with one another
do you want to wait to have kids.....or no kids at all, if you don't want kids at all, then there's a huge problem that should be sorted out asap
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
I want to wait a year Guac. one year! and he's like "no"...lamo
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
Iam so mad I just want to scream the house down. Sad I know but I dont get riled often.
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
o then thats fine! Maybe you can try to explain you reasons for waiting so he can understand why you want to wait but at the same time you should ask his reasons for wanting children right away and then assess yourselves accordingly
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
^ Is there a reason for him that makes him not wait for even a year?
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
Get ready for the fact that u will have kids in the first year.
Or you might just get lucky and not get pregnant that first year. :)
Or jsut dont marry him.
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
sometinwong when the guy wants to have kids asap. i dont know of a single guy who was eager to have kids as soon as he got married. run when you can.
How do you explain that to someone who keeps pushing for kids and just doesn't LISTEN.
Tell him not to push for kids but for love.
thats a nice way to put it, :k:
P.S you can play the financial and stability card, this always makes the guy think 
(I AM SERIOUS)
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
stardust,
have u both tried to sit down and discuss this subject as two mature adults? getting worked up or angry is not going to get u anywhere sweety. make sure you communicate your reasons for not wanting a child so soon. (do u want to work, further your education, do u not feel mentally mature enough for a childe?)....and make sure he gives you a good concrete answer as to why he wants one ASAP. in my opinion, a person doesnt just ''want a baby''. you have to have a sufficient reason. maybe he feels that you two will be finacially and emotionally stable as soon as u are married..? maybe he has pressure from his parents/family? ask him questions and get him to open up. :)
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
Oh my Gosh, i thought men wud be releaved that they aint gonna get a kid after the first year. Jus go on the Pill. And not tell him. What else can you do?
Oh my Gosh, i thought men wud be releaved that they aint gonna get a kid after the first year. Jus go on the Pill. And not tell him. What else can you do?
u amaze me girl :D
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
@ MixedBeauty... Nice way to start off the marriage, being deceitful.
Stadust, have you ever seriously and calmly discussed the reasons for you not wanting to have kids so quick and him wanting them?
u amaze me girl :D
You amaze me too ;)
@ MixedBeauty... **Nice way to start off the marriage, being deceitful. **
Stadust, have you ever seriously and calmly discussed the reasons for you not wanting to have kids so quick and him wanting them?
I know.... dont ever take my advice.
But seriously stardust, After you do get preggers you might actually love the idea.
meiko shammo aalee hai
P.S Apna ek hee funda hai boss, be positive about everything, jo hoga dekha jaayega, there is no point stressing over something, your best option is to talk to your hubby and decide as a couple, InshaAllah everything is going to turn out for the best.
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
:p
Re: I don't want to get pregnant
Pop birth control pills when he isn't looking.