I don't want to get married

X2 · August 29, 2008, 9:26pm

not true, men are very perceptive, extremely perceptive but much better able to filter out noise and stuff that does not matter.

'always' is not the right term. majority of guys I know dont live with their families after marriage so it is adjustment for them as well, its not just the girl who is leaving comfort of parents home and minimal responsibilities, the guys have tha same

and men are forced to be in a position to be a fair adjudicator, and the measurement of fairness is whether they agree with the person grading them.

so if we are going to stay with old school stereotypes, then
women dont have to work..nuff said

but they have to provide for them, deal with pressures of being the sole or primary bead winner in uncertain economy, workign themselves to an early grave as evidenced by men dying a an earlier age then women

niether are women, but they have made their own life miserable with useless crap like, oh i cant wear the same dress again, i need matching shoes and jewelry. who cares, not men. other women do

niether do many women, and in the case that they do, they dont have to play the adjudicator role in which they put their husbands.

kabhi soccha hai larkon par kya guzarti hai

Adrasteia · August 29, 2008, 9:31pm

tau na karo shadi, koi zabardasti thori kar raha hay tumharay saath

jazzysam · August 29, 2008, 9:32pm

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oh god … opening the ‘man vs. woman’ can of worms again!

jazzysam · August 29, 2008, 9:32pm

single raho....khush raho!

Shikra · August 29, 2008, 9:43pm

I will talk about myself below but I am sure it applies to the majority of men on gupshup. :D

PSquared:

Men are absolutely oblivious to everything around them...thats why they dont complain. They just exist. Everyone has problems, but just because I don't open threads on my problem, doesn't mean they don't exist.

THEY dont have to move to a strange home, its always the girls who make the adjustments. In today's world, most couples move into an apartment. Even when the girl moves into a joint family, the husband also has to make some adjustments - the most difficult part is to balance his time between his wife and his family.

Men dont have to deal with their mothers, its the DIL. TRUST ME, men have to deal with their mothers AND their wives when they are caught in the middle of cold war.

Men dont have to cook - Not all, but some men do cook, and it's better than their wives. Marriage is shared responsibility. If wife cooks all 3 meals, that means she's a homemaker and the husband is earning money full time. And no, women aren't forced into this "you cook while I earn money" because I know a few great couples on GS where the husband works and the wife takes care of the family.

Men dont have to clean - Again, because they mostly work full time. I work full time but when I am home on the weekends, I clean our house (dusting, sofas, vacumme, take the trash out etc.)

Men dont have to bear children - But we help our wives raise children. Sure the wife gets up in the middle of the night to feed the child but we also get up when the child cries. Then we let our wives catch up on their sleep during the day and we watch the children. I have an 11-days old daughter.

Men arent even required to look nice - Women aren't required to look nice either. We all look nice for ourselves. I don't know which weird person would NOT want to look nice and is doing it as a duty.

Men dont have to live with THEIR MIL's - Again, most couples move into their own house, and those that don't, it's worse for those men because the DIL has to deal with the MIL only, where the husband has to deal with the wife AND mother.

Yet here you are fearing marriage because - OH NO - your wife and mother might argue and your delicate and sensibilities cannot handle that! Again, everyone has problems but mature people don't whine about them. Those people that are sharing their bedroom stories, their family stories, saying they hate their husbands, husbands are cheating etc, I find them very immature. That's my opinion.

If ONLY the above has YOU fearing marriage, what do you think WE go through?

Hm? Kabhi socha hai ke larki pe kya guzarti hai?** Bechaarey larkon ka koi nahi sochta :(**

Edit: Just saw X2's reply. I had started typing before but had a phone call so had to step away.....but seems like I am not alone with what I wrote.

BulBuli · August 29, 2008, 9:49pm

Good decision pal. You know deep down that you’re gonna be a bad husband and a bad son. So instead of creating problems for yourself by getting married, do some self-analysis and be a better person. THen maybe you will be prepared to enjoy a serious rlationship in your life.

Btw…Get help:help:

Princess_Fiona · August 29, 2008, 9:50pm

No i haven't.. Yaha itnay problems thread hain kay farq hee pata nahi chalta kay konsi achi wali hain aur konsi problem wali.. Anyways like for us single people.. we need to be encouraged in to marriage (waysay bee less and less people are getting married.. Canada statistics).. so tat is why i said they should more often open good thread or educational thread.. to help us in future.. rather than discouraging us... ...

Numb · August 30, 2008, 12:31pm

All what you said is wrong.

gesto · August 30, 2008, 4:19pm

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I am with you ,dear thread starter friend.............. :) I do not want to get married and ofcourse do not want to get in to any relationship either......... :)

Light_Bearer · August 30, 2008, 8:41pm

X2 and shikra have already covered most of the stuff lekin mujhe bhi apnay dil ki bhiras nikalni hai.

The only problem is we have to buy the new dwelling.

If we can be fine to our FIL why cant you be fine with your MIL.

Wrong preception.

But I pay for the housemaid.

Women dont have to bear bosses in the office.

Are you serious?

Not all but some do.

Office mein bhi bak bak, ghar mein bhi buk buk, kabhie hamaray baray mein bhi socha hai? :)

PaRi_Si · August 30, 2008, 8:43pm

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mere saath ulta hai....
i CAN"T wait to get married!! :'( Amiiiiii meri shadi kerden plz :'(

X2 · August 30, 2008, 9:47pm

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ab dekho how soon chichoray of GS start sending you PMs.

Monk · August 30, 2008, 10:50pm

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After watching closely I have figured out its all women's fault. Guy don't change much in their life.
We are aggressive when we get married, at that point girls being young are attracted to our ragging hormones.
We stay the same but when women get bit more mature all of a sudden we being not so polite become an issue.
On top of that in middle age women want "respect" in the same manner guys want all through their lives.

So mostly its women who should be blamed.

cricketplaya · August 30, 2008, 11:09pm

wow which school u go to?

Niksik · August 30, 2008, 11:42pm

You’ll be a great husband, and you will get a mature wife and your mom will love her. Everything will be OK.

But don’t come back running to me that I said so

cricketplaya · August 30, 2008, 11:45pm

to bola kyuN!?

Reha · August 30, 2008, 11:45pm

Let me enlighten you…women grow with age and experience. They embrace life, learn from their mistakes and become better people…meaning they evolve.

Men grow mentally until the age of 25…and then stay that way forever!!!

Im not a man hater, but seriously…“its all the woman’s fault”??? COME ON!

Niksik · August 30, 2008, 11:47pm

I just wanted to participate in your thread and rub salt on your imaginary wounds :buumer:

COCO · August 31, 2008, 12:01am

Thats a good thing..now teach others to do the same:p

Monk · August 31, 2008, 5:10am

Madrisa dude!!

If you watch closely thats what happens.