I don't want my kids growing up in Pakistan...

[Muzna]

Re: I don’t want my kids growing up in Pakistan…

@Exodus

Salam.

Folks living outside of Pakistan have created their own networks there, networks that help them feel home/desified. I as a Pakistani would feel proud, nothing less. Some things don’t agree with you, fine. You’ve changed, fine. You kinda like it there? Good on you/Happy for you sister.

But a few points i’d respectfully wish to disagree with. I see generalizations again, you see Pakistanis as the ones who’re trying to enforce their views on to others, you think they think you hate Pakistan, and you think we’re trying to convince people to come back. Untrue.

Okay…I’ll grant you that.

@Exodus

This debate was never about whats better, this side of the pond or that. Basically It was about raising your kids out of Pakistan. And if thats what you want, I repeat theres no argument, its your ultimate right/choice as a parent. Just don’t go around blaming Pakistan for not being good enough, because when it comes to being good enough, it IS good enough.

If a kid who attended a local school in Pakistan can go and scoop out 3-4 oscars in consecutive years, then why are not the educational institutions that deserve to be considered good enough, good enough?

One example out of many.

I respectfully disagree. It isn’t good enough. There are many aspects of life that my child could never enjoy if she was growing up in Pakistan and I held the same middle-class status that I have here in Canada.

Perhaps my child isn’t the brilliant star that may end up being the shining example that scoops up 3-4 oscars in consecutive years…I’m certainly not going to make life changing decisions on a gamble like that. And one example out of many is not good enough either. Especially when it is so specific and isolated.

@Exodus

So you have corruption in Pakistan?
You have drug/alcohol abuses in the west, racism/discrimination. no? I can go on youtube and link you to several videos where a Muslim is being treated unfairly in the west. On the contrary, could you link me up with half as much videos where Christians are being treated unfairly, in Pakistan.

I have yet to visit a place where corruption or nepotism does not exist.
But I am not so blind as to say that Pakistan does not have a greater amount of corruption.
When I go about my daily life in Canada I have no need for sifarish or rishwat…this is not the case in Karachi.

There are drug and alcohol abuses in Pakistan as well…there is racism and discrimination there too. Just because you can find youtube videos documenting such cases in the west doesn’t mean that they don’t exist in Pakistan. It simply means that there are fewer means for the victims to upload them…and perhaps, much more dire consequences for them if they actually do.

@Exodus

Someone said, I would not go shopping alone in Karachi considering the insecurity situation. So would you be comfortable going shopping alone in a country where every 7th female is raped?

Someone has already addressed this with a very valid response…suffice it to say that I have been out shopping in Karachi alone about four years back…didn’t have any issues or fears…but would I encourage someone to do this, not likely.

Fact of the matter is that if my rights are violated in Pakistan, I have little means to seek justice, whereas, in the west, there is always a way…

@Exodus

“Other thing I fear, they won’t have any sense of respecting other religious beliefs and cultures. I want them to visit Pakistan often but staying there forever is a no no. Oh and also there are very few libraries in Pakistan, in fact, no libraries for children.”

Defence Library, Creek club, Country club. You’ll find 3 fully equipped libraries within a 2 mile radius in Karachi. The 1st point is however an opinion and definitely not mine.

What is the average family income of families that are able to visit these libraries and clubs? Are they lower to middle class? I’m curious…enlighten me.

Where I choose to live in Canada, a library is in every single community and every single child is able to have a membership…regardless of their financial, social or ethnic status. Can Pakistan say the same?

Nobody comes to bad-mouth their own homeland…but we are not blind either.