So I hear this a lot of times from the overseas ‘pakistanis’…
my question to them is…
1.what exactly are your fears about it?
2.lwhat will happen to your kids if they were to grow up in pakistan…??
3.How do you think they will turn out and what negative impact would that have on their moral,religious values??
P.S… i know some usual people will show up…and instead of answering the questions asked…will start asking counter questions and then start discussing me…i request them to not spoil this thread..thank you.
Kahi woh ek dum desi na ho jaey, na english sahi tarah bol sake, aur kahi galti se unhe apne culture k adat na ho jai, wagera wagera :(.
2.what will happen to your kids if they were to grow up in pakistan…??
Shayed woh bahar reh kar apni zindagi lambi kar paey :(.
3.How do you think they will turn out and what negative impact would that have on their moral,religious values??
Sanu Ki Cool Shool tu lagey ge na. Bas phir jab humhe lath mar k bhage g tu tab sochey ge k aage kya karna hai :(.
I am not an overseas Pakistani but i just know the mentalitity of these people! and to be honest we are better off without these people but just one request, if bahar aap ko sab milta hai then why do you run crying here to get your daughters and sons their respective partners? bahar kya log shadi k qabil nahi milte:halo:
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Other thing I fear, they won't have any sense of respecting other religious beliefs and cultures. I want them to visit Pakistan often but staying there forever is a no no. Oh and also there are very few libraries in Pakistan, in fact, no libraries for children.
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^ Han kuch log garmi k wajah c gusse mein hote hai, kuch apne halat k wajah c :( Chalo garmi tu khatam ho jayegi but if some people don't change their annoying attitude, i doubt their halat wl ever change.
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Another fear I have is lack of security, chori, dakay aur bomb blasts, sure it can happen anywhere but there are more chances of happening this in Pakistan, sadly.
There are so many reasons, but most of all it's about being raised in a multicultural society and being more tolerable, I don't even plan to stay in UK for a long time coz I plan to visit and stay in different countries but yeah UK is my husband and my children's home.
I agree its important to show children that other religions and cultures exist. In Pakistan if anyone is Hindu or Christian its like they are outcast from society. Especially at 'village' level..I mean they don't even eat food they have made. Pakistan was built on Islam but this not a Islamic action. It angers me
Sensitivity threshold seems to have gone really low !
back to the topic :
ok for those who don’t want their kids to be raised in Pakistan .. would these things be of a concern to you?
schooling - I have heard there’s a lot of bullying, racial prejudice and crime in the local schools in the west (Brit, US etc) esp against Muslims these days
Islamic values - true you can keep trying to teach these at home but what about the stuff these children learn from school (which goes against our religion)
Urdu - it is our language after all .. somehow the kids I have seen here can barely speak a word of Urdu
Cultural values : how do you manage to keep alive the cultural traditions and values in your children living in a total western society
Filtering the right aomunt of information at the right time - sex education is provided in these schools at a very younge age …girls get into these problems since their early teenage..drug culture is predominant too! the general concept about sex is : do it but with precautions
peer pressure, psychological stress blackmail, sexting, esp for the young teenage girls (who think their social suicide would be there if they don’t go to these dance parties, proms, co-ed trips etc etc
again am not saying every kid I see is compleltely kharab…but I do think parents would have to make an extra effort to resolve these concerns
Some of these things are exist in every society and every school and the best thing would be to homeschool your child for the first 10 years.
I am totally against the sex-ed given in UK and US schools, but in Pakistan there is NO sex-ed at all which is also wrong.
I remember how girls in my school in Pakistan outcast shia and wahabi girls. And not to mention how girls went on dates by bunking school. In the end, it comes down the parents and how they train their children.
One thing I like in Pak is family life…people aren’t workaholics and hence more relaxed.
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Yeah blame it on those who don't even live in Pakistan.
I don't understand the hostility some Pakistani posters have here for Pakistanis living in West...seriously, what have we done to you?
Where should the blame go? Did you see the word 'we' in my post? What happened to Pakistan? Is the land that is cursed? Did the aliens come and poisoned it? Whatever happened, it is us and our parents and our grandparent that did it all. They were either accomplice or quiet at whatever was happening and are responsible for it all. We should at least accept the responsibility for the state our country is in, no?
But then, it is much easier to just point and say, "oh the place stinks."
Cool Shool tu lagey ge na. Bas phir jab humhe lath mar k bhage g tu tab sochey ge k aage kya karna hai :(.
and to be honest we are better off without these people but just one request, if bahar aap ko sab milta hai then why do you run crying here to get your daughters and sons their respective partners? bahar kya log shadi k qabil nahi milte:halo: