Re: i don't wanna marry an ugly guy when his face is the only thing that i know about
yanzala....girl- i totally know how you feel!
i'm also from the US and went through the EXACT same thing! My mom would show me pictures of guys along with whatever info she had and ask me for my input. If i said no (based on looks)- she would go off on how I'm materialistic and I'm no Aishwariya Rai and I'm getting older...so I should give the guy a chance...and pictures don't always do justice, etc, etc.
I was able to get away with it for a while and did "reject" some guys solely based on their pictures. Eventually my parents thought I was being too picky and was getting "old" (mid to late twenties) so I started agreeing to meet/talk to some of these dudes. None of them worked out for one reason or another (thankfully :)). And...most of them did look like their pictures. Funny thing is- the ones I thought were very attractive in pictures had the worst personalities! The FOB/uncle-type/baldies (NO OFFENSE TO ANYONE) were nice, but not what I was looking for (in terms of education, job standard, outlook on life, religion, family values and ethics).
I went through this "rishta process" for probably 4-5 years- beginning after I graduated from university before I met the one :). No, it wasn't love at first site. I initially thought he was OK looking from his pictures. We started talking, met in person and found out we had so much in common and TOTALLY clicked. I didn't get butterflies or anything looking at him, but the fact that we got along so well made him so much more attractive to me. My parents were happy that he was educated, religious, from a great family and just very loving and caring and most of all loved me so much. Eventually, we got married :). Alh, we've been married for over a year now!
sooo...my advice to you- if you find the guy completely hideous looking, then its your call if you want to meet/get to know him or not. Is it something you think his personality/ views/ outlook/ etc will make up for? if you think he is even OK looking, I suggest you do talk to him and then make your call. I know its really hard to find decent guys in the US and this whole process is such a whirlwind and sucky process!
May whatever is in your naseeb be best for you and may you find your match soon, inshallah :). just don't give up!