I don't understand

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i understand .. ur being made a fool .. something is up .. just forget him .. agr tumhare kismat me khoobsurat larka hua to ek na ek din tumhe zaroor milega .. but to hell with this chalakoo

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^^ Thats horrible. I swear, avoid these university day relationships, especially IF you are liking the guy. Give it till your 4th year or so and you'll start to see the stark difference between mature men and immature uni boys. Theres nothing wrong with wanting to be friends but you clearly are so concerned about him ignoring you that the issue needed its own thread ... I think that in its self is a red flag...

Now if you must, IMO, ignore him for a while, even more so over the phone. If he wants to talk to you, he can do it in person, the more you talk to him through texts, theres going to be very little depth in that type of relationship and all of your discussions start and finish there. If he really wants to genuinely be friends, he'll be NORMAL enough to talk to you person. If only girls understood this better...

I never really spoke to guys openly and was always the type of girl that would avoid the person I liked because I was insecure all through out highschool and in the beginning of college. Some guy started perusing me mid way through college but it took him a year to finally get me to respond because I just didn't like him but I finally gave him a chance and started a "texting" relationship and all of a sudden (like literally 4 or 5 days of talking) I could hardly get his attention when he wouldn't leave me a lone for over a year before that! I just stopped answering his calls and texts especially when one of his friends drunk called me in the middle of the night and I got a perfect picture of the type of person he was. So gross. and ofcourse once I stopped responding, the calls and texts started again asking me where I was and blah blah, so stupid. ...but I guess something bigger was planned for me, as three weeks later a rishta, and my future hubby to be came along. Don't know what it is about stupid uni guys but everyones just having fun. You should too, dont take it so personally or seriously.

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No, I’m in the South. But it wouldn’t surprise me if there are similar stories out there. It’s easy for naive girls to fall for stuff like this (I should know… I definitely learned some hard lessons during my dating days).

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jeez you girls have no trust in guys!

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yeah, I'm...actually more anxious than I was before asking this. i had just thought he had lost interest/wasn't interested to begin with because of my personality or something...not because he was a two-timing jerk. :S

So I guess I'm going to NOT talk to him after class tomorrow and just ignore him until...he talks to me.

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now don't listen to these angry women.

you don't have other desis around, and he seems like a nice guy, so there is no reason to shut out a potential friend.

about him not acknowledging you in a group, this is something many desi guys do and not only to the girls....sometimes don't "acknowledge" guy friends even. The point of concern would be when he doesn't acknowledge you in private.

So don't let yourself be further confused and take other people's bitter experiences as a norm. and try to not get carried away k?

if you start demanding attention and expect him to act how you want him to. You will pretty much scare away the guy.

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Dont be anxious, just dont put to much thought into it :)

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ahh…goood old university days…when these things matter!:smokin:

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I would just be casual.
Don't know how talking to somebody reeks of desperation..

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Relax, I was joking! :)

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Looks like he has a crush on you.

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Are you in the UK by any chance?

From my experience, some guys tend to want to see what's 'out there' as well as have fun with random girls on the sly. It's the beginning of uni, and he's probly thinking that there's loads more girls to meet yet.

But whether this is the case or not, ANY guy who ignores you in front of your friends is gonna be a twit. Seriously. If he's the type who doesn't want his friends to 'get the wrong idea', what does that say about what he wants?
I've had this happen to me at the beginning of uni, it's not nice, but I would say DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME ON THIS GUY.

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If he is the last man on the island, you are rightly worried & confused

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Sounds about right!!!!

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^ This. Of course, what do us angry/bitter women know about men who play games with women’s emotions? :rolleyes:

BTW lahorikudi…the man I ended up marrying…from the very first time I met his friends…about a month after we started dating…he made it very clear that we were an “item”. The desi guy who actually ended up marrying me didn’t have the type of personality and never had any “reason” to hid the fact that we were an item. So don’t think my words are coming from a woman who thinks all men are jerks.

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Hey now I thought it was the basic rule

"GS Women are all bitter old ladies who are emotionally unstable feminists and are so westernized that they hate FOBs...."

anywho

If he doesn't talk to you in front of his friends then meh. I wouldn't care unless you're romantically involved with the guy which you are not. So why is it bothering you?

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Nope, in amreeka. yeah, I mean I think people that ignore other people are rude, in general but then, I tend to ignore guys I’m attracted to w/o realizing it because they make me self conscious and nervous. I just didn’t know if guys worked that same way.

:slight_smile: Thanks for the advice, it’s nice to know there are SOME nice guys left out there. hopefully.

It only bothers me because he was so…aggressive initially with getting my number, contacting me, etc. It’s not so much bothering me as it is making me curious. And I don’t want to sit there and assume he is interested when he’s completely oblivious or be completely clueless about the fact that he is attracted to me (i have a bad habit of doing this), especially since I do find him attractive

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just be the observer. see what happens and don't do anything rush.

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Now that's a sixer!

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haha theres a lot of nice guys left out there. you just won't find them in the first year of university lol