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Yuk .. Glad ya got out . Imagine living in such a nasty backwards household!!
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Well done for taking a stand against them. I believe you've just saved yourself from a lot of unnecessary trouble.
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weird responses. She wasn't married with kids that she owes him or anyone any thing to keep the relationship going....they don't even have a relationship!
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Urgh, GLAD you opted out! I wish I could do so too! Well done on opting out!
ESPECIALLY with the wedding looming up, the MIL is throwing too many tantrums, too many needless complaints- anything her son does the blame instantly falls on me- everytime I call her she is complaining, threatening me that she doesn't see a future of me and her son together and we will divorce in 6 months- that I should think about it again and again, even when the dates are supposedly set! She even purchased my wedding clothes half heartedly- at our place bariyan dekhne waali hoti hain, SO grand. You didn't do this for me, you didn't do that for me, you can't work, expectations this, expectations that, you've to call this person in that family, that person in this family whose cat died for pursa... but when my uncle died, nobody called me or came to see me and actually were forcing us to agree to get married before his teeja or whatever its called!
Even her son doesn't support me unless I threaten to leave, then the cycle repeats. I'm giving it a final go because I've worked so hard for this relationship, and then I will run.
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Well don’t judge people with their first impression. I think you should not say No to this Rishta, I know people to act to nicely before and they day newly Wed enters the house, show their real nature. Just give it a chance.
And remember whatever ALLAH has written for will happens. The Good or Bad.
Allah also gave us common-sense to make decisions..
Why should someone keep themselves in a negative situation when there are other options??
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"you cant judge it by dere 1st impression... talk to ur elder rathr den postin ur problm here... to break a relation is easy .. u can change dere mind.. Trust Allah .. May Allah help u "
Yeah Faexa is right .
Don't make any decision from this discussion .
We are jusy saying our words not gonna face it .
So you have to face it . And do it with your elders consent . Pray to Allah for help .
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^If they have met + talked more than once it's not just 'first impression' is it?
And a person should also look at real-life examples + situations rather than being naive and leaping into potential problems thinking 'Allah will sort it out'.. That is just asking for trouble imo..
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I understand some of you are concerned.
Ending a relationship is not easy but i was in an initial stage where all i seek is love. Its never about maids and work load and joint family for me.
All I seek is love. Islam gives me beautiful rights whereas mil will take some of those away from me.
If the boy I'm going to be with doesn't even understand marriage then there is no point.
I have decided not to marry because I am getting old day by day or that everyone wants to.
I have decided to follow Nabi Pak S.A.W. formula and see the heart.
Allah will take me to my soul mate IA.
I am looking for someone who Fears Allah only and he was not.
Allah has guided me and protected me.
Respect is always given never asked for. Respect always comes to you when you give it.
May Allah Guide us all and protect us from evil.
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I see your sincerity and wish you all the luck!
You have invested emotionally into this relationship hope it works out for you.
Though people do not change only Allah changes them.
May Allah open their heart to you. May Almighty protect you & may your man be understanding.
Urgh, GLAD you opted out! I wish I could do so too! Well done on opting out!
ESPECIALLY with the wedding looming up, the MIL is throwing too many tantrums, too many needless complaints- anything her son does the blame instantly falls on me- everytime I call her she is complaining, threatening me that she doesn't see a future of me and her son together and we will divorce in 6 months- that I should think about it again and again, even when the dates are supposedly set! She even purchased my wedding clothes half heartedly- at our place bariyan dekhne waali hoti hain, SO grand. You didn't do this for me, you didn't do that for me, you can't work, expectations this, expectations that, you've to call this person in that family, that person in this family whose cat died for pursa... but when my uncle died, nobody called me or came to see me and actually were forcing us to agree to get married before his teeja or whatever its called!
Even her son doesn't support me unless I threaten to leave, then the cycle repeats. I'm giving it a final go because I've worked so hard for this relationship, and then I will run.
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