I don't think its meant to be...

Lifestyle Relationships
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So i went ahead with a rishta…and my future mil jst said that we need someone to look after our son and I cant bring my maid or get any help and also mil said that she wont love me more then her first bahu (she is also her niece)…

Like who says tht…I think i should end it now.

Boy said all i want you to do is respect my mother..Okay so what about his mom she doesn’t give me love only me going around loving everyone.

Men should know how to balance mom and wife.

Like they are 2 separate beings and one cannot be compared with other.

Like who says tht…I think i should end it now…Right…its better now than crying all the time.
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How do your parents feel about these remarks?

Personally I would call it off because this is enough of a major warning signal of life after the wedding.

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Have u talked with your elders about this, if not then you should talk. It really sounds strange, usually i have seen (Naee Navelli Dulhan) newly married wife and daughter given much importance in the family as a way of welcoming her and everyone loves her. In your case every thing seems to be so cold. This is not normal. If you were my sister i would never let u go to a place where they dont even have love for show. I think you still have a good chance to think over it, but do talk with your elders about it

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end it.

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dont end ur relation darling.. just change their mind by ur actions.. make dem feel for you.. Inshallah Allah gonna help u

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^Yes, because that always works :smack:

Imagine if she’s like this at this stage when people are normally on their best behaviour what she’ll be like after marriage..

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Why did you open two threads on teh same topic? :konfused:

stop giving advice darling.

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End it. Clearly, will make your life a pain in the future.

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I agree, end it. Only paindo people can deal with other paindo people. And you don't seem like one.

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are her ILLS paindo people?

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From the post, her MIL certainly seems to be.

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^ @pakimaradyouuu stop being a beejamoloo \loll!!

@ really, u want to come back here a year later posting threads about ur in laws every other day? : (

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THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!
I do not even know you all and your sincere support means a lot.

Yesterday was a tough day.
For my ex- future in laws ... well being literate doesn't make you educated.

My parents support me.
Sending their only daughter to a family who do not even have courage to give love. Makes no sense.

I prayed for who ever will marry that boy because he doesn't understand that biwi n ma are 2 separate people can never be compared. No one can take my mothers place so why would I take mil place.

I think Allah just saved me. May Allah Save every one from small heart people. May He open our hearts and mind to new people. Ameen!

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Thanks xxx

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Well don’t judge people with their first impression. I think you should not say No to this Rishta, I know people to act to nicely before and they day newly Wed enters the house, show their real nature. Just give it a chance.

And remember whatever ALLAH has written for will happens. The Good or Bad.

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[quote=“Sara516, post:5, topic:272086”]

Why did you open two threads on teh same topic? :konfused:

I was 2 tense didnt realize it was wedding forum…x

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I’m glad you ended it. No one deserves to be treated that way.

Its amazing to see how many people value being married over respect or just plain etiquette :halo:

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They do sound paindu - sorry :(

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Lol. Mil is a nut. Run spike girl run.

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you cant judge it by dere 1st impression... talk to ur elder rathr den postin ur problm here... to break a relation is easy .. u can change dere mind.. Trust Allah .. May Allah help u