i dont know what to put as the subject.

Lifestyle Relationships
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ok so…lets say some1 likes u…like umm…ur cousin…no…ur moms cousin…(ok i know this sounds REALLY weird but knowing its allowed in islam…we cant say its rong :slight_smile: ) …humaare huzoor ne apni do betiyon ki shadi apne cousins se ki thi :-)…(correct me if i’m wrong) …
so…aap ko maalum hai keh in todays society it’ll be considered really weird if u marry ur moms cousin…kher…
so haalat yeh hein:

ur moms cousin LOVES u…
us ki age or aapki age mein 2 years ka difference hai…he has loved u since…well…humesha se :slight_smile: …

so u go to pakistan n he tells u he loves u…n u like the way he loves u…n ur like…15 years old…n VERY immature…so when he asks u…u tell him keh yeah u like him too…
n u laugh at all his harkatein n stuff n…like…u guyz both start liking each other :smack:

then do maheene baad u come back…jahan bhi ho…bahir…:halo: …any mulq…lets say canada…

and waqt guzarne lagta hai…aap apni life mein busy ho jaate ho…
he always e-mails u tho…n u guyz chat n everything…

note that aap dono BACHPAN ke dost ho…agar kisi or tarah nahi to u LOVE him like a friend…he has always been ur BEST friend…u guyz know each other inside out…and u guyz have always done shaitaaniyaas together n stuff…n yeah…u guyz r best friends…always share everything with each other

so yeah…he e-mails u n stuff n after 2/2.5 years…(after coming back to canada) …u realize that…he has everything a girl cud wish for to have in her hubby..but hes jus not the person u always dreamt of marrying…like…u cant explain …he has everything…hes good looking…good athlete…parha likha…bohat nice sweet…from a good family…and above everything else…he loves u like crazyy…

but still…u jus have that feeling that…hes NOT the one…

n he thinks u like him…but aap usse door door rehne lagte ho…n he starts noticing that ur not talking to him like before…

so now…he asks u saaf saaf…do u love him? or not! ..
n u guyz r both old now…like…lets say ur 17 (ur a girl btw) …n the guyz 19…

so ab aap jo bolo ge obviously i mean…woh aap ka faisla hoga…

and aik or problem…jo i didnt add beechh mein…u like someone else…BUT…he doesnt know…and u know that he doesnt like u…u KNOW 100%…n u KNOW keh i mean…u’ll never get him…
cause its jus…almost impossible for everything to work out..
and u CANT tell him that u love him…

so now…aap first guy se bol to do…cause u know he’ll keep u happy n stuff…n will listen to everything u say…par ur gonna feel bad cause u KNOW u like some1 else…par i u tell the first guy keh nahi…too bad go away…ur gonna lose ur sub se acha dost..who means everything to u…

ab aap kya kero ge?

aik aese insaan ke liye jo aapse pyaar bhi nahi kerta …aap aese insaan ko chhor do ge jisne aapke ilawa kisi se pyaar nahi kiya kahbi…

baron se aksar suna hai “shadi usse nahi kero jisse TUM pyaar kerte ho…usse kero jo TUMHE pyaar kerta hai..”

sigh…kher…

ab aap kya kero ge?

ps: and NO…this is NOT MY story :rolleyes:

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ahh! i didnt get past the first two paragraphs

the only thing i can advise you is go for the one you feel 100% sure you know is right

its a gut feeling, you just know :k:

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Your thread sounds like a bollywood movie

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jaanu, if you are 15 and he is 17..how the heck do you know he is parha likha? And when the girl is just 15 or 17, her love life should be the last thing haunting her. Better ask her to forget both guys atleast until she completes her high school. Then she can think of dating or whatever whilst keeping her studies as the primary goal.

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I hate to say this, but I agree with ceebs this time :)

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dpon't I always say the right thing? I am so wise, I make myself proud :p

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no you ** dpon t** :stuck_out_tongue: always say the correct things :smiley:

but just to make u feel better, yes u do :rolleyes:

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:slight_smile:

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wat u mean U :smack: its not me :hoonh:

wese Cb baji…the girl rite now is 17…and the guy is 19…
she did not WANT to fall in love…trust me…:stuck_out_tongue: …
and latest news yeh hai keh she told the guy to wait n let the parents decide bout everything when they get older…she keeps telling him that he AND her..both r too young to be making these kinda decisions…but u know…sum guyz…sigh
us ke liye bus HAAN…ya NA hai…

sigh

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yeah so? 19 ain’t old enough to declare someone parha likha, unless your definition of parha likha is a high school graduate.

And see, the girl is almost as wise as me, she did the same exact thing I suggested above :stuck_out_tongue:

P.S: quit calling me a baaji :mad:

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ok guys .. bollywood movie or not .. she has relayed her thoughts about a certain issue .. we could give her our 2 cents without the jives sorry getting senti shes my lil sis ...

neway .. the last comment u made is totally true .. that a person shuld marry sum1 who loves them instead of sum1 they love .. khair .. about giving this other guy a definitive answer .. does the person in question stil hold the same feelings 4 him she did 2 or so yrs baq? ... im guessing thisll be answered in the negative! ... if this girl is still hung up or guy numero deux .. but understands he is impossible to get .. but stil has feelings for him .. don`t you think .. its only fair on guy number one .. that she tells him like it is .. instead of sumwhat stringing him along! ..

She needs time to get over guy number two .. b4 she can start thinking about anyone else .. and if guy number one really loves her hell wait .. and another thing .. shes what 17 and he is damn 19 .. what the hell are they doing thinking about such crap at the mo. tell em both to go to skewl and concentrate on their studies ...

zindagi mayn aur bhi ghum hayn mohabat keh siva :p ..

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:k:

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my only concern would be, they are only 17 & 19.. they're too young..

i know a lot of people who have been married at 18 or been engaged and are living happily ever after (to some extent), but this girl sounds too young.. she shouldnt need to worry bout marriage at this stage or even who she should choose

at 17 i was beating up boys with my cricket bat

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
at 17 i was beating up boys with my cricket bat
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There is great wisdom in this post, the girl should follow sadzzz example.:biggthumb

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Chandbeti: *
yeah so? 19 ain't old enough to declare someone parha likha, unless your definition of parha likha is a high school graduate.
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Haha... thats quite right. This was the first thing (and perhaps the only thing so far) that stuck me about this whole movie scene. "19 year old parha likha ghabru jawaan!".

Anyway, there are just too many "ab aap kya kero ge?" in there. What I am gonna do, therefore, is click on another thread and hope the hormones slow down as the kids mature in this one.

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by M: *

There is great wisdom in this post, the girl should follow sadzzz example.:biggthumb
[/QUOTE]

:D i was a mean girl... still am

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I agree with others.

It might seem very noble to put aside her own feelings and to marry the 1st guy, but it is very unfair to him. How could she begin her marriage with a lie? She will be in love with one boy/man and marry another? I think the best thing to do is wait.

17 is far too young to make this kind of decision. We change so much in the years between 15 and 22. I think it's important for her to allow herself to grow up and figure out what she wants before she makes such a decision. Is she planning on getting married right away??? If not, then I would suggest waiting to tell the boy anything. A long engagement would probably be more difficult.

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okie guyz…before everyone starts saying the same thing :rolleyes: …lemme clear sum things up…

i TOTALLY agree…that she AND the guy r too young for this stuff…the larki is totally immature n is NOT thinking about marriage anytime soon…
even tho unke khaandan mein kaafi shadiyan hoween hein larkiyon ki at the age of 18…
wese khandan pe depend kerta hai…kaheen larkyon ki shadi der se kerayee jaati hai…or kaheen jaldi karwana pasand kerte hein barre…kher…

shadi ko to chhorein…:smack2: shes NOTTTTTTTT gonna marry no one till shes like…22 ATLEAST!!!

sawal to yeh hai keh…kya yeh uski ghalti hai agar usse aesi feeling howi towards the other guy…?

and sadzz…hehehe…woh nahi peeche parri wi kisi larke ke :slight_smile: …
and this girl…larkon keh daant torr chuki hai :slight_smile: …shes very like…hyper n outgoing n stuff…:stuck_out_tongue:

our aik or baat…the first guy is her BEST friend…sawal sirf larki ki khushi ka nahi…kyuon keh woh larki usse bhi udaas nahi dekh sakti…sigh…its so hard to explain…she loves him…like a lot…our humesha uska acha chahti hai…she has always provided emotional support for him…ab woh khud uski udaasi ki wajeh kese bun jaye…
kherr…usse apna bhi sochna hai :stuck_out_tongue: …

to again…yeh larki KISI ke peechhe nahi parri wi…naa hi usko shadi kerni hai naa hi woh ready hai shadi ke liye…shes really immature n stupid…lol…and usko second guy ke toward aesi feeling howi to shes feeling all guilty keh uski neeyat aesi kese ho gayee…har namaz mein dua kerna keh Allah miyan uski neeyat saaf rakhein harr aik ki taraf…parrr trust me…sometimes u cant help it…(and only a few ppl will understand wat i’m saying… )

i dont know wat else to say…sigh…

in baaton ka KOEE matlab nahi guyz…keh shes to young…i mean…i DO understand shes 2 young…par r u guyz saying shes 2 young to like some1…i dun think so…
is she too young for some1 else to like her…i dont think so…
is she 2 young to marry..?..i agree…and shes not getting married!!!

par kuch saal mein to honi hi hai na…

n the guyz problem is that…abhi bataao…haan ya na…
n she keeps telling him keh humein barra to hone do…abhi thori ha faisla kerne ka waqt…par hes taking that as a NO! …
and poora change hora hai…n she doesnt want to lose the best friend she ever had…
shes all like..ab mein kiske paas jaaya keroon gi jabhi udaas hongi ro ri hongi…etc
n not only that…it makes her cry how shes being so…arghh how do i say…like before she told him she DID like him…n now…
i mean…she feels so guilty…
n yeah…it WAS her mistake that usne bohat jaldi ki usne poocha face to face to bus haan ker di…
par she was 15 when that happened…n apni umer ki larkiyon se zyada immature hai…
to bus usne keh diya usko laga hoga keh she does like him…

par now she feels really bad…keh usko dhoka de rahi hai woh…

to ab kya woh apni saari khuwahishein saare sapne dil keh aik kone mein bund ker ke usko haan keh de? …
ya phir na keh ker aazad ho jaaye…
aazad as in…uske uper koee faisla kerne ka bhoj na ho…:slight_smile:

and plz dont repeat wat has been said hundred thousand times in the above postS! …keh shes too young…etc…
i understand that :slight_smile:

Sahar baji: yes…aese decision keh liye woh BOHAT young hai…sirf age se choti hi nahi…dimaagh se bhi :slight_smile:
our woh yeh baat bata chuki hai pehle larke ko…keh abhi woh faisla nahi ker sakti…she has told him to wait …n let the parents decide when they grow older…
par the guy is taking that as a NO…(since 2 years ago she told him she DID like him ) …
our siwaaye is ghalti keh…uski kya ghalti hai? :bummer:

he told her not to talk to him n e more taake usse usko bhoolne mein asaani ho :slight_smile:

par woh larki naa bhi nahi kehna chah rahi…

or shayad haan bhi nahi

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listen, shes 17.. most teens go thru mixed emotions. Hello, im 24 and i still do. She can still have him as her best friend.. tell her not to take any major steps at the moment. She doesnt need to tell the first gyu anything.. actually, no she prob just needs to tell him they're too young to be promising each other anything

tell her to enjoy being young

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sadzeeeeeeeeeee :crying: thats exactlyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy wat she wantssssssss…:crying:

aap log asal problem nahi samajh rahe :frusty:

thats exactly wat she wants…to be friends with him jus like they were before…
and thats exactlyyyyy wat shes been telling the guy…pichhle kuch dinoon se…
but u know how some guyz r…
hes alll like…ohhh do saal pehle to kaha tha keh u do like me…n ab ur not sure…so hes taking that as a no…
n he thinks usse bus bolne mein mushkil hori hai…

she wants to enjoy being young…
not commit herself…to anyone…
cause shes all desi n stuff n she knows if she commits herself then shes gonna listen to everything the guy says :rolleyes:
thats why she wants to be all azaad n not commit herself :frowning:

parrr he thinks that nahiiiii sub kuch khatam …woh mujhe pasand nahi kerti…we will never talk…etc…
n all sad n aaahhh…

kuch samajh aaya ? :bummer: