ohhh btw…was reading aap logon ke replies again…
lemme answer aik or question…
ok ok 
…maybe hes not that parha likha…
par i dun understand keh aap log choti baaton pe behes kerre ho jo sub se barri problem hai usko discuss nahi kerrre 
by parha likha i meant…he will be parha likha…
…
matbal…hes in uni n stuff n obviously…kuch to bun hi jaye ga 
par that doesnt matter…sigh…
ab barri baari baaton pe baat kerein? 
^ yeah that the guy is too filmy and needs to grow up? that he needs to understand this from a logical point of view not an emotional one
tell her to be strong and just stop talking to him... they need time apart (cut off the emails for a month or so) and see what happens
who knows, she may run back to him
The guy needs to grow up, he doesnt sound too mature.
the reason why everyone pounced on the "choti si baath" (education) is because most of us understand the importance of being educated
and just cus he's in uni and all dont mean a thing ..i mean we dont know whats in the future.. so better leave the predictions of how parha likha hes going to be to God :)
maybe this is the kinda reply i’m looking for …
har koee kehe jaara hai guy needs to do this needs to do that…
i wanna know keh larki ko kya kerna chahiye 
yeah sadzeeee 
…yeh bhi option hai…
baat kerna chorna…sigh
par thats jus running away from him…
thats jus saying no…but indirectcly…
kher…
thankyou 
yup yup…
now lets not get into parhayee n stuff…
pweeaaaazzeeee
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*Originally posted by Sarah Splendor: *
The guy needs to grow up, he doesnt sound too mature.
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hes not ...ur rite :p
hmmm
kehna mushkil hae, coz im not in the situation
my personal opinion is that this age is for parhai, not for such things, har kaam apnay sahi wakt pe acha lagta hae, but then again, im saying that keeping in mind my own family and expectations from kids in our family. in some families, ppl get married young, so dont know.
good luck to everyone involved
Been there, done that - its terrible when you realise he’s not the one but still have to agree 2 marry coz your mom thinks he’s suitable (although not educated to degree level) and you have to keep your family together (marry inside generation), and can’t say NO cuz he’s madly in love - why dont girls hava a SAY? 
Seriuosly regretting but gotta cope with it now.
I advise you the same as Xsara… Speak up & make your elders undertand if you know he’s not the one for you…and also speak to him at a good time so he knows you don’t feel the same about him.
rizro -- that must be hard. i wish you the best for a happy marriage.
Thank You Very Much Sahar!
But you know what? Only Nikaah is done. He's still in Pak - Will be coming over to me in another years time - test his patience! lol!
Hehe, Rizro. Well InshAllah everything will be fine and you will bring each other joy and comfort.
Rani i agree with Sadzz , when ur too young (17) some times jisay aap Love samjte ho wo hota nahi …it s maybe just some mixed emotions n feelings …she needs some time n ask her to stay away frm indian movies ..
OMG, what are the kids up to these days? 
I mean: 17
And the funny thing is, that the girl seems to be much wiser and more mature than that guy (her mum´s cousin).
Btw: Generally I don´t think there is anything weird about a girl marrying the cousin of her mother. (I´m not talking about this particular case.) But maybe I think like that, because we´ve had such marriages in our family, ie my Phuppo is married to the cousin of my Dadi.
Tell her not to jump from a guy to guy...if this behaviour continues then by the time she's an adult uski saari masoomiyat aur sharafat chali jayegi and it's not a good thing...tell her she's too young to decide or predict who she'll marry...4-5 yrs mai insan kahan say kahan chala jata hai aur uski poori personality change hojaati. Right now, her main focus should be on her studies. She can continue to like whoever but it's not necesary for her to express her feelings to the person...it's not important...Well if she's really serious about someone then she can wait til she has completed some years of university and then ask the guy(IF he's stil around). I think she should make it clear to the first guy that she just wants to concentrate on her studies and can't really commit to him at this moment. He'll probably move on coz he's young too.
^ very well said ...
How cruel of you all 
JAwaan larkey larkeyoon ke bhi jazbaat hotey hain
My first love was in the age 14 then 15, 17 and last one was at the of 19. :love:
payaar karney ki yehi tu umar hoti hai.
yoo girl yoo boy do love 
Sahar02's avatar looks like shes flipping someone.
Re: i dont know what to put as the subject.
2 rakatein nafil parh ke so jao.
if anyone says the word studies ONE more time i swear i’m gonna go n KILL that person
is thread mein log ghaltiyaan zyada dhoond rahe hein logon ki…or madad kum…
i friggin understand she shud be studying and she is 
and mashAllah shes getting GREAT marks…n inshAllah going to uni in a year…
ABBB KISI NE PARHAYEE KI BAAT KI TO MEIN GALA DABA DOON GI USKA
or jahan tak age ki baat hai…
umer bhai: u tell me keh siwaye is keh keh uslarki ne nadaani mein usko haan ker diya…choti umer mein…us ki or kya ghalti hai…
n wat exactly do u mean by “kids these days”…aap me shayad abhi kuch dekha nahi hai..warna yeh story bohat shareef hai…trust me 
…
and i never said the guy n the girl DID something ..n also…
the girl is NOT!!! thinking about marriage…
lemme repeat that for everyone else:
the girl is not thinking about marriage anytime soon…she plans on finishing her studies first…
lekin wat i dunt understand is…larki ki parhayee pe itta zor kyuon diya jaara hai…
yeh sawal usse abhi…do hafte pehle poocha gaya hoga last time…
not like…shes always thinking about this stuff
or jahan tak second guy ki baat hai…she does NOT plan on telling him or stalking him or anything rolleyes
now tell me wat is her ghalti?
that she doesnt like the person she used to like when she was a lil younger ne more?
CurruptAngel lol…how many guyz were named in my post?
r u telling me keh ppl dont have crushes or dont jus LIKE ppl…i mean…i believe that true love happens only once…par choti umer (15) mein aksar pata nahi rehta…keh kya sahi hai kya nahi…
maybe jus the way the guy asked her…face to face u know…maybe she jus felt she also likes him…but as she grew older…she realized that ohh…it was only a crush…
yeah thats the point keh..it SHUDNT be necessary for her to make a decision like this at this age… or agar koee our larka aesa bolta…she wudve beaten the hell outa that guy …par since the guyz her bachpan ka dost…n they r like…super close…she cant jus think only about herself…she has this close bond with him…n she doesnt want to hurt him n lose him…do u get wat i mean?
like…she doesnt give a damn bout who likes her who doesnt…
par kuch rishton mein kerna parta hai
samajh aaya?
and i totally agree with u guyz on the point about having mixed emotions n feelings at this age…
i’m not saying that the second guy is like…her last n final love n stuff rolleyes
maybe she thinks of him as being the one rite now…n later might realize that that was also only a crush…
so yeah..i understand that
our ab agar kisi ne reply mein SIRF parhayee ki or umer ki baat ki…or mushwara dene ke bajaaye buraayee ki kisi ki to i jus wont reply to it :-p