Re: I don’t feel comfortable around him…
I haven’t read the rest of the thread - has a wedding date been set or can it be changed? At the very least your family owe it to you for you to get to know the guy and be sure that this relationship is going to work and for that you need time.
Truth is, you’re the one who has to spend your life with the guy - if you’re not sure and believe you won’t be happy, isn’t it better to resolve that before the marriage as opposed to after?
No, the wedding date hasn’t been fixed yet.But my dad says the proposal was accepted in front of so many people that,if now he says anything against it,it would be like an insult to him,as what people would think
partyslims:
This.
I have read most of the thread and your attitude at this point seems to just accept things. On one hand, you have absolutely no chemistry/attraction/feelings for him, to the point that you pretty much dislike him. On the other hand, you don’t have the conviction to state this out right, and put your foot down to your family on this matter regarding YOUR life. Yes it is YOUR life, not theirs. But if you are resigned to it and don’t want to fight it, then don’t blame anyone later if things don’t turn out the way you want them to. I’ll say it once again: This is your life. Take control of it.
I don’t seem to have any other way than to accept my parents’ choice because,iam just never able to handle/face my dad’s anger.
