Re: I don’t feel comfortable around him…
I haven’t read the rest of the thread - has a wedding date been set or can it be changed? At the very least your family owe it to you for you to get to know the guy and be sure that this relationship is going to work and for that you need time.
Truth is, you’re the one who has to spend your life with the guy - if you’re not sure and believe you won’t be happy, isn’t it better to resolve that before the marriage as opposed to after?