Talk to all of your roomates and decide what to say to her and you all tell her.
Okay, the thing is though I've know these two all my life, I'm not that close. We each sort of live in our little worlds. So its really awkward. The most we say each day is salaam.
Aisha she's nice and all, but I keep a distance, because when i was 14 or 15 we were like arch rivals. We've made up, but not to the extent that we're best buddies. I'm always scare that she'll play a two face with me. And also she seems to have a good relation ship with evil Saba.
The other one Hira, she's really quiet, and I never know what to say her. The only thing she talks about is TV, so it's like wierd.
Aisha, Hira and I get along well with our chores, and we decided in the beginning we won't have a chore list because we're mature, and share our tasks well . And we do- its just Saba that's like a thorn,
So tell me, are you getting PAID *to clean up after her? Or do you love your room mate as much as her own mother...and have decided to pick up after her? Girl, you have been patient enough. **Time to teach her a lesson the hard way.
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The girl doesn't even say **THANK YOU, what is the matter with her? Is she that** clueless*? Is she **impaired* when it comes to social ettiquette? Or does she think she's Paris Hilton or some self-ordained princess? Perhaps its all of the above. I agree with Saieen.......TALK TO HER!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know it seems scary, but it needs to be done. My sis was having trouble with a room mate who was really loud on the phone. My sister was afraid to approach her, and the situation kept getting worse. SO i told her that she needs to develop the courage and just talk to the girl. My sister finally talked to the girl......and she was very understanding and compromising. Now AH my sis and the girl have a better relationship.
If you are afraid to face the girl alone.....then confront her with your other room mate. Talk to her nicely. Say, "We like having you as a room mate and I think it's great that we get along fairly well. We just have one concern and our intention is not to offend you at all. But we'd appreciate it if you could wash your dishes and dispose of expired products in the fridge because it leaves behind a smell. We've been washing your dishes for a long time now, and we have our studying to do as well. So, could u please take care of that?"
If the girl gives you an attitude....then SCREW that. If she doesn't clean up her act....SCREW that! From then on, NEVER CLEAN UP AFTER HER! Let the ROACHES invade her dishes, let her get indigestion from consuming foul curdled expired goodies from the fridge. TEACH HER THE HARD WAY.
Worst comes to worst..........Report her!!!!!!!!!! Take pictures of her filthy plates and expired foods. In fact, send the expired food to a lab to get tested for bacteria and mold. Then send all the evidence to the dorm/housing authorities at your school.
Pretend that you're getting allergies and asthma from all her mess.....and then SUE her for money!!!!!!!
Okay......fine, i'm kidding. Don't go that far. Hopefully it won't get that far if you just TALK TO HER.......and STOP CLEANING UP FOR HER!!!!!!!!!
So bsaically you've never spoken to her about her behaviour?
Some people just need a little reminder or prodding. Im sure she has issues with u too.
Just talk to her, if things dont get better you can always call authorities.......
There nikkahed. She's finishing up med school. Med school is a big deal in the US.
She does have issues with me and I know that- She's always very rude to me and that's why I try to avoid her.
She's rude to you............and YOU CLEAN UP FOR HER???????
Um.............NO!!!!!!!! By cleaning up for her, you are only INFLATING Paris Hilton's sense of self importance. DON'T DO IT!!!
The girl is married, and she might as well start learning some household responsibilities. And you should be the one to teach her, otherwise her next victim will be her husband.......if he isn't one already. So talk to her (a civilized step)...if it doesn't work (stop cleaning after her)........if the STINK doesn't motivate her to start cleaning.......then REPORT HER.........or find another dorm if possible!
okay okay. So what's the best option?
1. talk to her?
2. leave her a note?
3. when she's in the kitchen, go to the kitchen, open the kitchen and casually ask "who
s old food is this? they should throw it out" So she get the hint. ANd then RUN TO my room as fast as possible
I'm thinking abt option 3. It's not direct, and i can run fast.
She's rude to you............and YOU CLEAN UP FOR HER???????
Um.............NO!!!!!!!! By cleaning up for her, you are only INFLATING Paris Hilton's sense of self importance. DON'T DO IT!!!
The girl is married, and she might as well start learning some household responsibilities. And you should be the one to teach her, otherwise her next victim will be her husband.......if he isn't one already. So talk to her (a civilized step)...if it doesn't work (stop cleaning after her)........if the STINK doesn't motivate her to start cleaning.......then REPORT HER.........or find another dorm if possible!
The thing is it's not a dorm. It's an apartment- that my parents own. So i can't move out. So there are no authorities. I don't think she like us so much either, so I'm sure she;ll move out for next. I'll know by the end of this month.
U seem like a really sweet person. U don't like conflict, but it's a part of life, sweetie. The fact is YOUR PARENTS OWN THE APARTMENT.....so why r u the one who is afraid???? It's HER that needs to clean up her act! YOU HAVE THE UPPER HAND!
The direct approach is best. You know why? Because some people are too stupid to understand indirect "hints." So it's best to confront face to face.
No, do not write a note. She is living in your apartment. She's already causing damage. No need for you to waste your paper on her. Just talk to her directly and nicely.
"Hi, I need to speak with you about something important. Before I begin, I want you to understand that I have no intention to offend you. This apartment belongs to my parents and I want you to feel comfortable here. BUT, since it does belong to them, then I want the apartment to be kept in the best condition possible, which means free from pests, odors, bacteria, etc. I've been washing your dishes for quite some time and I can't continue doing so because I have my own work to do. I would appreciate it if you can wash the dishes soon because they leave a smell if left out for too long. Also, please dispose of any expired food in the fridge because its harmful. I'd appreciate it if you could take care of these things."
Oh and please tell her this (even if you have to make it up): "I have asthma and allergies, which become aggravated with the presence of bacteria. So, please understand that this is affecting my health." Maybe that'll motivate her to clean up.
And if she doesn't shape up.....contact ur parents and explain the situation. And tell the girl to pack her things and get out by the end of the week/month. Get rid of her!!!! The apartment belongs to your parents and she has no right to mess it up so bad that others can't even live in it.
If you feel that uncomfortable about approaching her, and if you're sure that she'll leave by the end of the month, then the other option is just to wait it out quietly.
Although i don't think it's the best option for either your development or hers.
Okay the thing she's also a family friend. A we live in the same community. I can't just kick her out. I don't want to the one that's rude. I have a "nice perfect girl" rep with the aunties, and I sort of want to keep that. I don't want to her go on her phone (and she;s always on her phone) and tell the world what I said to her in a manner that favors her.
And I can't tell her i have astma. she know I don't have that.
I'm thinking two or three.....but I don'tknow. I need to go study. See y'all tomorrow!
You are scared of her and she knows it. She must be laughing at you inside her head.
You know you're scared of her and so does she - how the hell can you expect to resolve this issue.
You say you're a clean freak. Are you a clean freak or a super-duper-clean freak? Because the latter are super annoying anyway to have as room mates.
Never, ever, ever do others' dishes. If my dishes are always done, and no one brings up anything with me - I would be a happy camper, to say the least.
^ lol.
Okay the thing she's also a family friend. A we live in the same community. I can't just kick her out. I don't want to the one that's rude. I have a "nice perfect girl" rep with the aunties, and I sort of want to keep that. I don't want to her go on her phone (and she;s always on her phone) and tell the world what I said to her in a manner that favors her.
And I can't tell her i have astma. she know I don't have that.
I'm thinking two or three.....but I don'tknow. I need to go study. See y'all tomorrow!
Okay the thing she's also a family friend. A we live in the same community. I can't just kick her out. I don't want to the one that's rude. I have a "nice perfect girl" rep with the aunties, and I sort of want to keep that. I don't want to her go on her phone (and she;s always on her phone) and tell the world what I said to her in a manner that favors her.
And I can't tell her i have astma. she know I don't have that.
I'm thinking two or three.....but I don'tknow. I need to go study. See y'all tomorrow!
ahhh...so thats the grm you are trying to save...urself....wah...kia kehnay...and that is why u want someone else to clean up all the hurdles for you so you can stay little miss goddy good while others take the crap for you.after reading this selfish post of yours...i can safely say you are not better than your messy-roomate you so much love to hate. i wonder if she does all that intentionaly to piss you off. everyone like to step on the toes of those who think they are purrrrfect.
"Family Friend"....hilarious. Since you guys are "family friends," that means that there is good rapport between your family and hers. Do you think that maybe you can ask your parents to talk nicely to this so called "friend?" Maybe your mom can nicely tell her to clean up. Are you a student? If so, you must have homework/studying to do. So, maybe your mom can nicely explain to this girl help clean or maybe take turns cleaning. It's harder to say no to an adult. Or maybe your mom can talk to her mom......I don't know, although that would be embarrassing. It's sad that it has to come to this point.
