I feel so bad in even asking this question out aloud but better asked tostrangers than someone I know.. or at leats thats how i feel right now.I am married. It was a love marriage and i do love my husband. He is wonderful But over the last few months i can stop thinking about my boss - i have tried to stop thinking about him but it is just not happening. I am not sure why this is. My boss is also decent guy, he has never misbehaved or given mixed vibes as such but I can tell he likes me. Not sure which way though… He appeared a little nervous the last time we met but that could be anything.. This is just driving me a little crazy… please help if u can.
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You might an early promotion
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You have got only 2 options: Change the job OR change the husband.
The decision will be yours :p
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See a shrink , there is another option which I cannot say in public. 
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You're probably just infatuated by him... Someone else in another thread had a similar situation so the advice I wrote there would be the same for you:
1. Understand that what you are doing is totally unnecessary.
2. Just make a conscious decision to not feel that way about him. Respect and admiration is one thing, but to start thinking of a non spouse when you're married is quite wrong.
3. If it gets too hard, start looking for another job.
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Get it out of your system. How? Sleep with him and move on 
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p.s 
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O yeah happened to me! I couldn’t stop thinking about killing her 
she drove me nuts!
reads thread O 
ok
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Look for your answer in your guilt about feeling this way about your boss. You can not even discuss this situation outside a forum. Be grateful you have a wonderful husband and if you want to keep your job and your izzat get out of this before it turns into a messy. Your husband deserves your love and your time. Dont let this admiration for your boss develop into anything more.
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oh and limit your contact with your boss until you kill this liking for him =)
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do you think you've created a little fantasy of how your boss is since you've never lived with him or seen how he is in the nonprofessional environment? he could very well be a wolf in sheep's clothing
your hubby you know is a good person, has never abused you or treated you badly, you fell in love with him with his good and bad habits, maybe it would help to go on a romantic trip with him so you can see all those qualities of him that got you to fall in love with him, you need a little reminder.
if you leave your hubby for your boss, do you have any guarantee that the relationship will work out. that uncertainty is dangerous and could lead you to heartache but with your hubby you know for sure that he will take care of you and love you because that's what he's been doing all this time. we're all human and are prone to temptations but don't give up what you have with your hubby for a moment of weakness
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Maybe your boss appeared a little nervous because he felt uncomfortable that you were may be behaving differently in front of him. Did you drop him a hint that you like him?
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I also can not stop thinking about one of my subordinate. Once I saw her eating Jalaibee and since then I keep on thinking how did she fill the tube with the juice 
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Protect your izzat at all costs. 
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Make sure he never finds out you like him. Now THAT would be a problem.
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Ask him out for coffee at your lunch. And if you are really nervous then i think you have a crush on him.
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Maybe you need to try rekindling things with your husband since that may be the reason. You are your husband may have not had time over the last few months (the duration of your crush) and you allowed your mind to wander. I notice I develop harmless crushes too when me and my fiance are not in good spirits but it's always on not-in-my-life type people. Just try rebuilding intimacy with your husband. Some girls are the types who need a crush or someone in their minds at all times so if it's not their bf/husband/fiance they develop it on someone else. It's nothing serious.
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I can tell he likes me. Not sure which way though... He appeared a little nervous the last time we met but that could be anything.. This is just driving me a little crazy... please help if u can.
Why do you even care about trying to find out in "which way" he likes you? If you spend a lot of time/energy analyzing (in your mind) all of his actions and words....then I think that's a MAJOR PART of your problem. And that's exactly what you're doing. In the quote above you're trying to analyze what you percieved as "nervous" behavior.
For all you know....he may just like you cuz you're a responsible employee who is doing her job. For all you know....that "nervous" could even be a feeling of discomfort because he can sense that you're crushing on him. Our feelings are reflected in our body language and as much as you might feel that you haven't given him any indication of your crush.....he could even pick it up in your body language. And that can be embarrassing....especially if he doesn't feel the way. And it's not only him.....OTHER COWORKERS can also pick up on it...and that can pose problems at work.
You say that you have a happy marriage. Are you sure or is there something lacking that you're not aware of? For example maybe you like that your boss praises you for your work...and it's praise that you're missing in your marriage. No relationship is perfect. Even if you were married to your boss...it wouldn't be perfect.
Marriage doesn't mean that one won't find another person (besides their spouse) to be attractive. The important thing is to not act on those feelings and to check yourself....especially in your situation where you're working in close proximity with the person.
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you PCG ?
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Thanks guys... It helps sometimes hearing tHe obvious ...
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sleep your way through the glass cieling, ditch your husband and call your lawyer immediately :D