may be feeling right now is not correct but it is her friend who doesn't want to live with her husband and vice versa and marrying her friends is husband is not wrong if that was so Allah has made it HARAAM.plz read islamic provisions for marriage and with whom nikah is haram and halaal.jub tak shariat hamare haq me hai achhi hai jis din hamare khilaf hogai we talk about conscience
xaaactly. She doesn't want to live with him and this is confirmed as of today.
Why dont you go for dinner with him and sit on his lap and lick his face all over.
It's funny how you of all people should say that.
And you do realize that all your posts in this thread would make great replies to your own "Sexual Tension/Frustration/Desperation Story" thread? Right?
This is my first post in life 1 and i have serious problem which i am facing. I reallly need sincere advise and especially someone who has gone through same problem. There is a friend of mine her name is Samia. She is going through divorce from this guy name Irfan. And knowing them for couple of years (ever since they got married) they are mashallah nice people. However, i felt slight attraction to Irfan whenever we would meet in group gathering. He was kind of guy that i wanted. He is loving sweet and caring. At the moment they have filed for divorce is because they can't get along with each other. That is all i know. Ok so i met him at grocery store on christmas eve and we ended up going for dinner. So here is the issue, i have been thinking about him so much for last 2 days!. Don't know what happened to me. I think i always liked him but i am developing feelings for him. The problem is what Samia would think if i date her ex husband??. Call it infatuation love or whatever but i have developed very strong liking to him. :( And guys please no making fun otherwise i will burn you alive. :mad
oh women !
did you bother to ask your friend why they can't able to keep up there marriage. maybe the guy is a jerk, he is sexy and sweet but well his stuff can't stay in pants, voila?
.. and guess what if chicks are getting marry because of just attraction then write my words they will end up crying in junk hole in less then a year.
I know because i am a guy and a**hole kind a guy, trust me.
PQ, you are not helping him but breaking off a marital relationship. and feelings you have are very common in girls of your age, but that does not mean to start stalking.
you both are immature.
he could still reconcile his relationship with his wife.
Yup.
you are welcome but converting your religion for marriage is not good.
PQ: please get some self esteem and behave nice. you used word cute hubby more than one, sounds like troll.
Farhat Ishtiaq/Umera Ahmed, please read this life 1 thread and write one more story for Hum TV.
And you do realize that all your posts in this thread would make great replies to your own "Sexual Tension/Frustration/Desperation Story" thread? Right?
@Niksik: I suggest you guys put a leash on your unique little snowflake. She can’t go around blatantly insulting other members on the forum just because she is a mod, especially when she herself is more troubled than OP here.
@inspiron: Now, what is it they say about people who live in glass houses? Read your replies again. Congratulations, you have answered your own question
What kind of a friend are you? She is your friend first, be there for her during her tough times instead of making it even more tough for her. Her hubby is some one you know via HER & you have started to sideline her completely.
Yes they are still married. He was talking to you ONLY because you are his wife's friend & you know her well too.
There is something you are completely ignoring in all of this. He for now has shown no symptoms of liking towards you, he is just vulnerable due to his divorce.
what a lucky guy he is :hinna: BTW BF is always very kind and loving but after becoming husband they can’t love with their like they love with their GF so lets think to be his GF and give him chance to enjoy life
This is my first post in life 1 and i have serious problem which i am facing. I reallly need sincere advise and especially someone who has gone through same problem. There is a friend of mine her name is Samia. She is going through divorce from this guy name Irfan. And knowing them for couple of years (ever since they got married) they are mashallah nice people. However, i felt slight attraction to Irfan whenever we would meet in group gathering. He was kind of guy that i wanted. He is loving sweet and caring. At the moment they have filed for divorce is because they can't get along with each other. That is all i know. Ok so i met him at grocery store on christmas eve and we ended up going for dinner. So here is the issue, i have been thinking about him so much for last 2 days!. Don't know what happened to me. I think i always liked him but i am developing feelings for him. The problem is what Samia would think if i date her ex husband??. Call it infatuation love or whatever but i have developed very strong liking to him. :( And guys please no making fun otherwise i will burn you alive. :mad
Well if you are a Muslim you would know that dating isn't permitted in Islam, nothing good can come from a relationship which starts of with haram actions. I would suggest you guys do an Istikhara, and if it's positive go for nikah, doesn't even have to be elaborate , nikah can be simple.
I stopped reading the replies halfway through because I'm completely baffled:
1) you're not muslim but you're willing to convert for this guy that hasn't made it COMPLETELY clear that he's interested in you.
2) you claim that you didn't like him after 1 day...so then that means you were eyeing your friend's spouse earlier (sorry, that pisses me off...)
3) you claim that this friend of yours isn't a close friend. But you're consoling her and listening to her pour her heart out to you so clearly you have to be somewhat close to her. Okay even ignoring that...the more important thing is that you're going behind her back, providing false support while entertaining thoughts about her HUSBAND (HE IS NOT DIVORCED YET)
have you thought about the fact that:
1) he might not even be interested in you at all...? He could be reaching out to you because he's sad and just wants to vent or something
2) homeboy left his wife because she couldn't have kids...are you 100% sure that IF IF IF he's EVEN interested in you, he's willing to be okay with you not being muslim
3) if this does happen, you're going to have been the "other" woman...I know I'm all about not caring about the "logh kya sochay gai" mentality, but ...you're gonna be the homewrecker. Instead of helping him out or BEING NEUTRAL, you're not helping the situation.
I try to control my tongue on this forum but O...M...G. are you 5 years old? You're willing to forget EVERYTHING: your friend's feelings, your religion, EVERYTHING because you are crushing on your friend's "cute hubby". The fact that you keep mentioning his cuteness, is telling me that this attraction has a really shallow basis. And then you act like a prepubescent teenage girl and give him missed calls. Grow up. And think about the consequences of your actions. What will your behavior do to you, your friend, and this guy that you supposedly love so much.
They have filed for divorce but are not divorced yet... BUT you went out to dinner with him ( Im assuming your friend does not know)...erm, thatt's not right.
I stopped reading the replies halfway through because I'm completely baffled: 1) you're not muslim but you're willing to convert for this guy that hasn't made it COMPLETELY clear that he's interested in you. 2) you claim that you didn't like him after 1 day...so then that means you were eyeing your friend's spouse earlier (sorry, that pisses me off...) 3) you claim that this friend of yours isn't a close friend. But you're consoling her and listening to her pour her heart out to you so clearly you have to be somewhat close to her. Okay even ignoring that...the more important thing is that you're going behind her back, providing false support while entertaining thoughts about her HUSBAND (HE IS NOT DIVORCED YET)
1. I was joking about converting for him. And about him interested in me?. Yes he hasn't said anything about him interested in me. BUT he would often tell me how pretty i look and what i wore etc etc. (We work in same company but different departments). And we would go out for lunch together as friends. He also told me that if he didn't married his wife, he would have chosen me. 2 & 3). Yes i admit that i've had attraction for him for long time. Although he was married otherwise i would have asked him out. I am not really close to my friend (his wife) but close enough to discuss what is going on with her life as we have other female mutual friends too. She trusts me obviously and i have NOT broken her trust in anyway. Means, yes i have had big attraction toward her husband but haven't done anything. I am merely expressing my thoughts and how i feel towards her husband. For what i know he is not divorced yet but i will just sit and wait see where this goes. If he is happy then he is. I won't interfere in his life. But if he is divorced then i am afraid i will fall for him. I just told you the truth. You can be mad or whatever. These are my true feelings.!!!
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have you thought about the fact that: 1) he might not even be interested in you at all...? He could be reaching out to you because he's sad and just wants to vent or something 2) homeboy left his wife because she couldn't have kids...are you 100% sure that IF IF IF he's EVEN interested in you, he's willing to be okay with you not being muslim 3) if this does happen, you're going to have been the "other" woman...I know I'm all about not caring about the "logh kya sochay gai" mentality, but ...you're gonna be the homewrecker. Instead of helping him out or BEING NEUTRAL, you're not helping the situation. I try to control my tongue on this forum but O...M...G. are you 5 years old? You're willing to forget EVERYTHING: your friend's feelings, your religion, EVERYTHING because you are crushing on your friend's "cute hubby". The fact that you keep mentioning his cuteness, is telling me that this attraction has a really shallow basis. And then you act like a prepubescent teenage girl and give him missed calls. Grow up. And think about the consequences of your actions. What will your behavior do to you, your friend, and this guy that you supposedly love so much.
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1. I think he is. Why? look at my answer above. And in additon to this, he would text me at work to go have lunch with him. Basically i am not a child i can tell if he is even slightly interested me or not. 2. He is liberal person and grew up here in Canada. He told me religion is not an issue when comes down to marriage. Especially people from ahle kitaab. And yes this came in one of our conversation about religions. 3. I know what i am doing. And i am not doing anything at all. I just merely expressed myself here. That is it!!. Don't read so much into it. Good that you have controlled your tongue and have done it for your self respect here in gs and not for anything else. Yes i do admittt that i joked but i have fully expressed myself here in terms of what i feel about this guy. I gave him a call because quiet honestly i miss him a lot. Call me stalker, or whatever names you want to call. I have said nothing but truth and how i feel.
PQ, you are not helping him but breaking off a marital relationship. and feelings you have are very common in girls of your age, but that does not mean to start stalking.
Farhat Ishtiaq/Umera Ahmed, please read this life 1 thread and write one more story for Hum TV.
