I am very attracted my friend's ex husband!

[pakiQueen]

Re: I am very attracted my friend’s ex husband!

@soconfused

I stopped reading the replies halfway through because I’m completely baffled: 1) you’re not muslim but you’re willing to convert for this guy that hasn’t made it COMPLETELY clear that he’s interested in you. 2) you claim that you didn’t like him after 1 day…so then that means you were eyeing your friend’s spouse earlier (sorry, that pisses me off…) 3) you claim that this friend of yours isn’t a close friend. But you’re consoling her and listening to her pour her heart out to you so clearly you have to be somewhat close to her. Okay even ignoring that…the more important thing is that you’re going behind her back, providing false support while entertaining thoughts about her HUSBAND (HE IS NOT DIVORCED YET)

1. I was joking about converting for him. And about him interested in me?. Yes he hasn’t said anything about him interested in me. BUT he would often tell me how pretty i look and what i wore etc etc. (We work in same company but different departments). And we would go out for lunch together as friends. He also told me that if he didn’t married his wife, he would have chosen me. 2 & 3). Yes i admit that i’ve had attraction for him for long time. Although he was married otherwise i would have asked him out. I am not really close to my friend (his wife) but close enough to discuss what is going on with her life as we have other female mutual friends too. She trusts me obviously and i have NOT broken her trust in anyway. Means, yes i have had big attraction toward her husband but haven’t done anything. I am merely expressing my thoughts and how i feel towards her husband. For what i know he is not divorced yet but i will just sit and wait see where this goes. If he is happy then he is. I won’t interfere in his life. But if he is divorced then i am afraid i will fall for him. I just told you the truth. You can be mad or whatever. These are my true feelings.!!!

have you thought about the fact that: 1) he might not even be interested in you at all…? He could be reaching out to you because he’s sad and just wants to vent or something 2) homeboy left his wife because she couldn’t have kids…are you 100% sure that IF IF IF he’s EVEN interested in you, he’s willing to be okay with you not being muslim 3) if this does happen, you’re going to have been the “other” woman…I know I’m all about not caring about the “logh kya sochay gai” mentality, but …you’re gonna be the homewrecker. Instead of helping him out or BEING NEUTRAL, you’re not helping the situation. I try to control my tongue on this forum but O…M…G. are you 5 years old? You’re willing to forget EVERYTHING: your friend’s feelings, your religion, EVERYTHING because you are crushing on your friend’s “cute hubby”. The fact that you keep mentioning his cuteness, is telling me that this attraction has a really shallow basis. And then you act like a prepubescent teenage girl and give him missed calls. Grow up. And think about the consequences of your actions. What will your behavior do to you, your friend, and this guy that you supposedly love so much.

1. I think he is. Why? look at my answer above. And in additon to this, he would text me at work to go have lunch with him. Basically i am not a child i can tell if he is even slightly interested me or not. 2. He is liberal person and grew up here in Canada. He told me religion is not an issue when comes down to marriage. Especially people from ahle kitaab. And yes this came in one of our conversation about religions. 3. I know what i am doing. And i am not doing anything at all. I just merely expressed myself here. That is it!!. Don’t read so much into it. Good that you have controlled your tongue and have done it for your self respect here in gs and not for anything else. Yes i do admittt that i joked but i have fully expressed myself here in terms of what i feel about this guy. I gave him a call because quiet honestly i miss him a lot. Call me stalker, or whatever names you want to call. I have said nothing but truth and how i feel.