I am upset :(

[Reha]

@sweetdoll

Me and this guy had been friends for quite a few years and now we have our “baat pakki” by our family..He is in UAE and me in Pak. For the past few months, we have had great fights over phone and then he and me decided not to talk much… we both are of the same age:24… now the problem is that last week we again had a fight/arguments and we both ended up switching off the cells. Then very next day, he apologized and I said “itz ok” but still my mood was very much off.. for 2-3 days, he used to msg me daily once like how are u, whats up blah blah and I used to reply one liner..

Now the problem is that at once he has disappeared…i have been calling him 100 times daily and msging him, but he does not respond at all..I know that he is showing attitude now but I am just concerned if itz normal to disappear like that all of a sudden and do not reply to a single msg/call?? This is what he most of the times does when we have fight, he apologizes, (when itz his mistake) and then he disconnects completely.. I discussed this many times with him that disconnection is not the solution and for me itz such an immature attitude and he again apologizes but again do the same thing …

Am really upset and dun understand that what type of attitude is this?? Is this normal??is it that he wants to torture me like that?? What should I do? At times I feel we are not even compatible for marriage but seriously I don’t know what should be done? Am I overreacting?

Please I want sincere advice from u guppies..

I dont know what to tell you. I think you have a lot of growing up to do. This is only baat pakki and you cannot handle it…what will happen when you get married?

Added to that, long distance relationships do not work well. When you’re in front of each other, you argue less. Maybe limit the convo’s to once or twice a week and make an effort to keep them light hearted as well as fun. Fighting over the phone is bad because you cannot see the ramifications of your words.

If you feel you’re mature enough to be in a relationship at 24…then be mature enough to manage it well.

@Jaanwar

Why are you trying to equate men and women? A Man is naturally superior, sort of like master of the household. A woman is supposed to take care of his needs and to give birth to and raise his children. Don’t have the roles confused.