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As it is often stated here on GS, we only have ONE SIDE OF THE STORY.
Jaanaan, how abouts you give me the contact details of this girl, I will sort it out for you and before the sun has set, you will be married, and we will all come to your wedding.
And listen to RV, she is telling you to be a gentleman.
As it is often stated here on GS, we only have ONE SIDE OF THE STORY.
Jaanaan, how abouts you give me the contact details of this girl, I will sort it out for you and before the sun has set, you will be married, and we will all come to your wedding.
And listen to RV, she is telling you to be a gentleman.
heheheheheh, this is hilarious. I am imaging how that conversation will go
"Hi Madam, the guy who proposed to you, has been telling the entire internet community about it and oh yeah my name is RupayHalwa, so can you please tell me wtf is wrong with you" BEEEEEEEEEEEEEP that wont fly bro.
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^ I am not bro, I am shishturrr-jee.
I will say "Hello, this is your guardian angel speaking, I have been looking down at earth watching you in these past few days and I feel the time has come to speak..."
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Janaan leave it. Some fish are meant to be caught, considered to small and thrown back in the sea. You are gonna drive yourself rather insane dealing with all of this. You need to decide if you want this headache of a woman or someone else. There are plenty of women in the world and most don't play mind games like this.
If you want her even after all of this, I would say you are insane, but I wish you the best. You can not play half and half with the girl. Either go for it or don't.
And just to clarify Suji. I recommend him running far far away. I did not recommend talking to her. She is trouble.
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CM, I do wonder if you and Jaanaan have the same mindset. I may be wrong, but I get the impression that Jaanaan is seriously looking to settle down with a wife, perhaps you have more time to look around waiting for the right one, rather than taking some risk to find out if someone nearby IS the right one.
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^I agree !!! you need to listen to the ladies Jaanaan.
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Suji why are you making assumptions beyond what Janaan has posted on this website? He has never stated that he was in a hurry or that he has all the time in the world. Its irrelevant. Our comments should be limited to the information he provides and not using assumptions with the aim to hook the two of them up together.
He has asked about the psychological reasons for a woman's reactions. So far we are in agreement on what she is doing. She is looking for attention and she is sending him signals. The only difference is that I am providing him open ended advice and letting him decide what he wants. What you women are doing is pushing him to do something he is not sure he wants to do.
Executive Summary:
Congratulations. You are interested in a very smart girl. Secondly she is guaranteed bona-fide 100% trouble. You are also reading too much but I am personally think she is under taking these actions on purpose. More detail follows.
Reading too much: Regarding the book yes it is reading too much. But more specifically she would be doing it on purpose. Remember this are all assumptions based on a very limited knowledge of what is happening based on your view point. She could have easily been interested in just the book, nothing to do with you.
Football - both could have been busy. Gone shopping, busy with the family etc.
Clapping - again reading too much.
Devil woman: Now this is why I say she is trouble. Each action taken on its own is insignificant. Together it is a dastardly plot. (I just love using that word - dastardly :D ) As you have already pointed out each act was simple, yet personal. Not really intimate, but personal enough to attract your attention. That would be her goal. They are impersonal to others watching but can be considered personal depending your "history". Simple actions that reel you in. Which is exactly what they have done, you are not wondering, wait is she actually interested? Why was her previous reaction like that? I should find out more.
Your woman is the type that wants what she can not have. She likes attention and the acts of indifference have basically made her step up her game. You my dear boy are royally screwed.
I of course can be wrong, but if i were a betting man, I would bet once you show interest in her again she will go all ice queen on you. Now you can play with her to find out what exactly she is thinking. The choice is honestly yours. I would recommend, packing up and running. Such a woman is only a headache.
However if you are interested in really speaking with her, your actions would have to be "significant." I would suggest you have a chat with her like Suji Halwa is stating. But you use a different tact. One ask her to meet up after class or something. She will say no, but say you wish to talk privately and that she can decide where to meet. Be persistent. Show interest.
Now if she is the girl I am assuming she is, she will toy with this a bit. She will not give you a direct answer, because you have shown interest in her again. She will not go ice queen right away, rather she will entice you with other small "personal" actions. Trying to reel you in again but keep you stringing along.
What you want to see is if she is willing to speak with you privately or not. Don't ask for her bedroom or a hotel room. Say we need to chat, outside of class and let her decide where and when.
Of course Suji could be right and she will accept you can chat it out and when you get married you can blame me for all the troubles in the world.
You should be a lawyer !
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^ That’s a lot of work Shey 
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Somebody’s gotta do it 
besides later i can hire him (refer to my signature for further explanations) 
Firstly never ask women for advice about women. They are obtuse to say the least. Now your problem is as follows she is deliberately placing herself opposite to you. Its a simple. She is an attention whore. She is looking for attention from you.
Blah blah blah.....
While the female will construe this to you being a jackass, it will have a second affect. She won't target you. Women love attention. When they lose it they are *****es. They also hate competition. What you have done is given her the assumption she is important to you and thus deserves your attention. Your indifference will cause her to back off right away. Be ready for major backbiting then. You are to show her the following:
Blah blah blah....
Sexist much, eh? And as for the 'WOMEN hate competition' bit, well who in the world doesn't? Don't tell me that you wouldn't feel competition(read danger) if your spouse were beginning to have hots for your more-muscular mate? To say that only women 'hate' competition is as preposterous as saying this Pashtun girl isn't an attention-freak.