Finally, finally I did what I should have done a year ago!
So I have this “friend” who stays home, has little kids, doesn’t have much going on for her in terms of commitments outside of her home, doesn’t drive, has some very weird concepts and let’s put it this way, we don’t have much to talk about. I met her at someone’s house a few years ago and last year again, and at that time took my number. Well since then, she calls me up randomly and likes to chit chat. I’m not much of a phone person and since I don’t really have much to say to her, I much rather she stop calling me. I’ve tried being indifferent, cold, etc., but she doesn’t get the hint. She keeps calling…like 10 missed calls in 15 minutes.
Anyway, I was out of town the past weekend on work related matters, busy at presentations, when I see those 7 consecutive missed calls and 7 voicemails saying, “call me, I have to ask you a question.”
OMG.
So I get back, and today, I build up my anger and call her and I tell her:
Never call me more than once in one day.
If there is a question, ask it.
Ahhhhh.
I feel good. But did I do the right thing?
Btw, she listened calmly and there was no important or urgent question.
Well you tried telling her in other subtle ways and it didn't work. So being direct and upfront about it was the last resort which you reached. You did the right thing. It was fair on her too because now she knows where she stands with you.
bebo, but I have never done anything for her to consider me a friend. Just because you give someone your number you don't automatically warrant 10 calls in 15 mins from them....
If you feel good about it then maybe you did the right thing. But it could’ve been done in a less rude manner. Like, hey you dont have to call me so many times. If I see a missed call from you, I will definitely call back when I have time. And please if its an urgent matter just leave a message.
You could always make her feel bad and say OMG I was soooo worried when I saw soo many calls!! Shukar hai, everything is ok. Buss ainda eik hi missed call kia karo please.
Personally I would never speak like this with anyone . To be honest it was very rude ! May be she imagined you as someone who would help her .........khair I hope she has learned her lesson in a bitter way offcourse.
I'm so proud of myself today too... a creepy desi kept staring at me in the grocery check out line.. said to him in a very calmly "what the f*** you staring at?" ... Checkout chic laughed and said i made her day. Made my day too
Personally I would never speak like this with anyone . To be honest it was very rude ! May be she imagined you as someone who would help her .........khair I hope she has learned her lesson in a bitter way offcourse.
Since you said she has nothing much going on in her life, so perhaps she felt lonely, and so perhaps she tried to have a friend in you. Or perhaps she has some issues regarding her self-esteem.
I agree with what &passionate said. If she wasn’t getting your hints, then you could have told her directly in a gentle way!
I see what you mean but sometimes people just don’t get subtle hints. I have a friend who does something like this , I will get multiple missed calls within a few minutes of each other/text messages asking me to call her ASAP and when I call back all frantic, she just wants to chit chat. She knows I’m not a phone person anyway but I make an effort and even have told her that if I don’t pick up the first time, it means I’m busy and will get back to her later yet she still wont stop. Now she’s resorted to calling my home phone number/ mom’s phone /sisters when I don’t pick up and I’m talking midnight hours.
As bad as it sounds, I might give Nik’s tactic a try one of these days, though I have a feeling she might not take it as well as Nik’s friend did.
