i am sad and hurt..

[FairysAngel]

Re: i am sad and hurt..

@cute_ainee

**i live in KSA and going to pakistan in april..its been a year that i got married..when ever i talk about going to pakistan for a month,my hubby says that now that u r going there,stay there for 2 months atleast…like from everything he say it feels as if he is fed up of me and he wants me to go to pak now..though its been only a year that we got married…i asked him many times y do u want me to live so long there?and he says that its just that u spend good time there with ur family and friends..

now my hubby is not at all ann outgoing person and here in KSA i cant drive and cant go out without mehram,on my own…now for everything i have to ask my hubby to go with me and in the first few months we used to go out every day but now if i ask my hubby to go out with me or take me out anywhere,he gets so irritated…now it so happened that i stopped asking him much to go out to malls etc…he goes to office in the morning,come back till 7 or 8 pm and then sits on laptop or goes to sleep…now today i asked him that i want to do some grocery when he came back from office,he said ok,but i wont go now,i will go around 11 pm..i said ok..and now he went to sleep again:(..

the thing is that today i asked him that i wana go to some event tomorrow(thats happening in our city),at first he said"kya kerna hai ja ker,rehne dow"..but i said no i want to go and then he said"now u know y i want u to go back to pakistan"..i said “y?if i ask u to take me somewhere coz i cant drive or go out alone ,is it that much a problem”..he said “yes”..i said i m hurt for what u said and he said"achi baat hai"..

i am soooo sad and hurt:(..what should i do?i am sooo sooo ssoooo frustrated and down:(**

Cute Ainee,

Don’t worry and don’t think negatively. Everything will be going to be okay as time passes. Your huby just need some time to think and realize that now he should change, say good-bye to his bachelor lifestyle because he’s married He’s the family head now and responsible for all home affair matters and should be home at earliest and must gives you time for your whatever needs. His bachelor life is now over which he lived from last 25 years. Means suddenly he have to change his lifestyle and needs more time like a year or more than that.

If he said he wants you to stay at Pak for 2 months, I don’t think he’ll wait 15 days or a month without calling you back. Just give him time because sudden changes sometime cause for great stress and unhappy life so don’t ask him again and again to take you out for this or that. While he’s leaving for office, give him a list of those things which you needs for home so he can bring after finishing office.

Rather than saying that I need to do some grocery so take me out for shopping, say our current grocery are old or in shabby condition. What if we buy new? What you say? If he agrees than say okay ‘whenever you are free buy and bring it after finishing office or by going alone on weekend, and if you want me to accompany you, then let me know when so we can go out together’. He’s the family head and he will realize at that time or in a day or two, he’s responsible to bring all household items, he have to do all those home related works which he never thought to do before. He should respect your feelings and take you out somewhere (in park or malls) too.

Argue on every little things won’t take you both anywhere so avoid, think positively, be calm and be patience. Inshallah everything will be oky.