…Now I have heard this numerous times from almost all Pakistani girls. They are all different from the average Pakistani girl, then they go on to list what makes them different. Mind you most of it is what other girls say.
Its always amusing to see their reaction when you inform them they are not infact that different.
But on a more important point whats this specific desire to show that you are a “special snowflake” and so very different from the average Pakistani girl?
Is the average Pakistani girl such a bad thing that you must prove that you are different?
Mmm it all depends on what your definition of an 'average Pakistani girl' is?
I would say I am an average Pakistani girl in the sense that, I follow my mazab, have good morals and ethics, dress moderately and according to my culture, put my family first, care for my parents and will always do as they say etc etc....
But I'm guessing thats not quite the definition you were thinking of?
Sara the attitude is uncalled for. Check it in at the door.
As for what is the definition of an average Pakistani woman, you have me there. I have no idea. But I do not get this idea that one must state that they are unique or special and above average.
Because generally, as Sara said Pakistani women are not given the recognition they deserve. So each women wants to stand out and be different. Be it for the sake of a rishta, a job or whatever. They feel the need to show they are 'better'.
Sara the attitude is uncalled for. Check it in at the door.
As for what is the definition of an average Pakistani woman, you have me there. I have no idea. But I do not get this idea that one must state that they are unique or special and above average.
Kya karoon, the Goach bag still hasn't arrived :ASA:
Most girls are aware of what other guys think of them/their kind, either as too liberal and thus "loose" and characterless, or conservative and uptight/stuck-up. Though they shouldn't even try to "impress" guys who hold such preconceived notions.
Now isn't that a rather odd attitude to adopt. But this is coming from someone across the gender divide. If women or girls of exemplary attributes define themselves as the average Pakistani girl would not that increase the stock in the qualities of the average female?
Basically instead of saying you are better and the rest suck, say you have unique qualities but you are still average - most girls are like you?
Sara...err...speak with Gina. She was handling all the arrangements for your bag.
I did not wish to go into a serious discussion, but I agree girls should not try to impress guys with such notions. However the issue or concern I have is that this desire to be special or unique adds to the stereotype that the average pakistani girl is a bad entity.
I’m not in favor of self-bragging, especially when that means putting others down, i.e., the type of girls in your initial post, it reeks of insecurity and a little bit of being ashamed of your own kind…which sadly is a very average thing in our society.
what hte hell i went from disagreeing to agreeing w/ u? :aq:
Is the average Pakistani girl such a bad thing that you must prove that you are different?
I'm from the states, and they way i see girls in PK is that they are in need of an attitude adjustment! These are the girls i run in to. I would say their middle/upper class, educated, and soo on! They just cannot get over themselves, i have met one nice paki girl who is my age, so we always do lunches when i come! Maybe they think i have an attitude problem, because i wear jeans, and i'm from here, but get over it. I think of them as some little princesses who can't cook for the life of them, they don't do anything in the house, and all they do is watch drama's and oh and back bite!
and i know not all girls are like this but A LOT are!
I think for the most part everyone in PK needs some sort of an attitude adjustment!
It happens. Most girls fall under my sway soon enough :p
See I disagree with the insecurity part. Most desi girls are pretty secure or rather secure enough to be way to vocal. While they already have the ability to be heard and are heard they over compensate for the supposed injustices they see in Pakistanis society.
Personally I think its just a desire to show people you are an individual. Women are generally side lined in Pakistani society so unless they are loud and different they will not be noticed.
I'm from the states, and they way i see girls in PK is that they are in need of an attitude adjustment! These are the girls i run in to. I would say their middle/upper class, educated, and soo on! They just cannot get over themselves, i have met one nice paki girl who is my age, so we always do lunches when i come! Maybe they think i have an attitude problem, because i wear jeans, and i'm from here, but get over it. I think of them as some little princesses who can't cook for the life of them, they don't do anything in the house, and all they do is watch drama's and oh and back bite!
and i know not all girls are like this but A LOT are!
I think for the most part everyone in PK needs some sort of an attitude adjustment!
The whole of Pakistani qaum is generally Araam Pasand. But believe me I'm very different from those average Pakistanis and I'm not boasting or anything just stating a fact.
Gaia the ladies you mentioned need a latitude adjustment not an attitude adjustment Also it could be that you need an attitude adjustment with regard to Pakistani women.
Also it could be that you need an attitude adjustment with regard to Pakistani women.