I dont think this is normal…Im excited about married life and being together and im feeling better about the valima but I couldnt care less about my dress mum has got it for me and I dont really care about what it is, I dont care for decor, for food or for the makeup artist - its in 6 months and I have done nothing and my parents are ready to kill me.
Before I got my nikkah and meeting the husband to be I would dream about my wedding and watch videos and come on this forum…now I my attitude is one of ‘whatever’
Why do you feel like you have to be a bridezilla about all that stuff? I had zero involvement in my shaadi preps…my Ammi & sister handled it ALL..from clothes to decor to food to venue…it didn’t really interest me a whole lot and I trusted their choices and opinions. I concentrated on my school, work, apartment hunting and trying not to get bogged down with my in laws drama. It all turned out beautiful and everyone was happy.
I think you’re fine. Don’t let yourself get caught up in what you think you “should” be doing. There is no cookie cutter one size fits all code of conduct
Do you feel this way because you already had your nikkah done and for you the charm is not there anymore since you know you will be with your husband IA?
I think it's totally normal! I know lots of girls who couldn't be bothered with planning their wedding..
There are lots of girls and tv shows that talk about weddings/wedding planning but there are sooo many girls who don't get caught up in the whole wedding thing! (I was the complete opposite but lots of my friends felt "meh")
It's the married life thats the most fun anyway :)
Do you feel this way because you already had your nikkah done and for you the charm is not there anymore since you know you will be with your husband IA?
No its because i think its a pointless expensive show and drama for other people.
If it was up to me and husband we would have a garden party with 50 people and informality, no stage, no 450 guestlist etc etc
Therefore both of us have lost interest in it completely because our wedding is what is expected of us from our friends/family we both suggested this small informal garden party for a rukhsati and our parents and family went nuts and got super upset and thought we had lost our minds there was no negotiating it.
Try talking to the parents again and reason with them if a garden party is all you want. Nothing wrong with that, in fact it's a wonderful idea to go simple if that's what makes you happy.
Your parents may grumble about it now, but later on they'll see the wisdom in it.
I dont know how much should I relate this question with your feelings or not, but a question popped up in my mind, is it your arrange marriage or love marriage??
Although its normal to feel the way you are feeling (in some girl's cases) but sometimes one of the reasons includes, arrange marriage!! Instead being excited, one kind of feels, afraid or neutral (careless).. I am not generalizing here.. but telling you with personal experiences (mine and friends around). :)
hm.. !! Then I guess its not the right time you should be feeling the way you are worried about, that you are not feeling
its still 6 months, waqt qareeb aanay do… you will feel it
It's totally normal! I was talking to a friend yesterday about when she got married and she really couldn't care less about anything - clothes, mehndi, decor, venues, food, etc. Her sister and mom did everything, she's just not that picky and just didn't care.
I, on the other hand, am a complete control freak and I have a hard time delegating.
That's totally normal inspiron, and actually thats how it really should be. Ironically nowadays we girls are more excited about ONE wedding day than the WHOLE of our life that is to come forward
I agree with one of the other posters above, talk to your parents and say you want a nice, classy but small wedding. It's a good attitude to have, when in this day and age girls go all cuckoo crazy about one day and spend too much.
Tell your parents you'd rather save your money for the honeymood :D
^^ I told my parents I want a small, classy wedding and I did NOT hear the end of it that so-and-so and such-and-such HAVE to be invited. Let's face it, what makes a wedding really expensive is the amount of people we invite, we're lucky we don't serve alcohol at our events because that would easily double the price.
Khatti and the others have given great advice. I'm sorry that your wedding isn't going according to plan, but that's ok- it's one day and you get to spend the rest of your life iA doing things with your hubby exactly how the two of you want them done.
I say enjoy this time off. Tell your parents to go ahead and plan it as they wish and you just sit back and chill till the day arrives. Go get massages amd facials and focus on yourself. You'll be a relaxed, stress free bride and isn't that what we all want?
