Don't worry, there's nothing wrong w/you! I felt the same way throughout the year that I was engaged. Not only did I not care for the rukhsati, I was DREADING it, for many of the same reasons that you stated. It was not "my" event. In the end, I sucked it up and let everyone else have their way- the jora according to my mom, the venue according to my dad, etc.- because I just wanted to get it overwith. And when it will finally be overwith for you, I can honestly tell you that what comes after those few days is going to be the happiest part of your journey :) Keeping you in my duas.
That's what it was like for me too, I didn't feel excited, but that was because nothing was how I wanted it. It didn't even feel like it was my wedding, it felt like my mum was throwing away a load of her money just to throw a party for her and her friends.
Tell me about it! Brought up in Germany away from a desi community, never got to dress up and attend any desi parties/weddings. Was REALLY looking forward to my wedding, had it aaallll planned since years. Four months til the wedding and absolutely nothing is going the way i wanted.
You should be happy the days after the wedding you can spend them with your husband doing whatever you like. I don’t even have that to look forward to.:hinna:
I dont think this is normal.....Im excited about married life and being together and im feeling better about the valima but I couldnt care less about my dress mum has got it for me and I dont really care about what it is, I dont care for decor, for food or for the makeup artist - its in 6 months and I have done nothing and my parents are ready to kill me.
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Before I got my nikkah and meeting the husband to be I would dream about my wedding and watch videos and come on this forum......now I my attitude is one of 'whatever'
is this normal? has anyone else felt this way?
I was not a tomboy, I wanted my wedding in a certain way, however when the time came, I gave control to my family, I felt my vision was difficult to implement at that time, so I did let the family decide the entire event. The only that spoke me were my sandals. I was very stressed with work and was also enrolled in a two week grad class, so yeah it was for the best that I kept myself out of the whole arranging stuff.
I think it is normal to let go of the control as far as you are happy and excited about the person you are marrying.
I agree with one of the other posters above, talk to your parents and say you want a nice, classy but small wedding. It's a good attitude to have, when in this day and age girls go all cuckoo crazy about one day and spend too much.
Tell your parents you'd rather save your money for the honeymood :D
Fully agree.. and dont worry even i wasnt excited about my wedding but now my daughter has changed everything for me :))
That isn't really abnormal I think. Thank God it is not the other way round, you wanting a lavish wedding and your family not agreeing to that. :P Let them do as they want but do make it clear to them that the simpler it is the happier you would be, so if they want to make you feel happy they should not only do what they have always imagined for your wedding but also let you feel like it is your day.
The best thing is that you are excited about the married life, nothing else matters much. Arrange for a lovely honeymoon and do the rest later. Your family might rethink their ways if you plan a lavish honeymoon you see. :P
Best of luck! :)