Awwwwwwwwwwwwww....you guys are so funny.
Lost, typing long posts is a talent I havent even quite mastered yet. SHC and RedVelvet take the cake. However, to me...when I read or type long posts...it shows how much a person cares. Think about it...if someone spent all that energy on you...it means they care that much. :) So, I enjoy reading them, learning from them and these days when I can manage...I like contributing to them as well.
Aisha...how goes it? Ive been away all weekend with stuff my mother had planned for the family but now Im back. Monday was a recovery day. I so needed it. Im also back on the diet. You know Sadzzz? She is on some sort of a diet too right now and it seems to be working well for her. Im going to ask her what she is doing.
Guess what? A few years ago, I got a rishta from this guy in NY. He was really nice but not my type. We talked for a few months but since it wasnt going anywhere...I just let it die. Anyway, through mutual contacts I heard he got married in Lahore this past summer. Wonderful news, good for him! But last night, I got an email from him out of the blue. He is a doc and will be in my town for an interview in May and wants to see me. He doesnt think I know about his wedding and is making it look like we just lost touch.
Obviously, I wont see him. He is a trouble maker, a player if that makes any sense. I refused him for that reason. I sensed I would be worrying about him and what he does a bit too much...why put yourself through all that misery?
Im just a bit stunned because the man is married! No, he is not a friend of mine and never was. The word "platonic" is German to this guy. I dont know what to say to him so Im thinking of not even replying. I COULD go into details and tell him Im getting married and all but what would that do? Just open up a line of communication...being married isnt a big deal to someone like him.
Hey Reha,
You're right, I agree with you. You're not even interested in talking to this guy, so there's no need to reply to his email. He's not even a friend......he's just an acquaintance. Although.....it would be HILARIOUS......if you meet up with him.....and he starts flirting with you.....never telling you that he's married.......and making it seem like he's single. Then YOU can put him in his place and watch the color drain from his face as you inform him that you are not only getting happily married, but that you're also aware he's married himself. LOOOOOOOOOOLZ. What a perfect scene for a movie.
He's a married man and he has no business getting in touch with a girl who is only an acquaintance! It is very suspicious that he didn't mention his wedding in the email. Don't email him. It may seem like I'm being paranoid, but you never know how he might react if you send him an email saying that you're getting married. You don't need him or other people talking/spreading malicious rumors about you. Opening a line of communication with him might jeopardize your reputation. In a way, it's sad isn't it? A desi girl's reputation is always more fragile.....the slightest thing can damage it.......whereas guys can get away with much more because society allows it. It's bad enough that being a married guy, he has no qualms about his rep........but it's worse that he doesn't seem to care how this could potentially affect you. And to think his wife has no idea, eeeeew!
As always, Reha, you're on the right track! I totally agree with your decision of not responding to this guy!