I am not a happy camper these days [split]

[Bonbonniere]

@somehowcollide

Girls, the wedding is less than 2 weeks away. How will I keep my sanity? I feel a little overwhelmed. I need help

1. What should I wear to the court marriage?
2. I have a long train on my lengha, will it be impossible to dance in?
3. My hairdresser and makeup artist said that all my bridesmaids should wear button down tshirts. So I found some really nice shirts, very upscale and classy. I know it is something that will make them feel confident when they are out in the professional world. But I am thinking of embroidering them with “Bridesmaid” because I think thats customary? On the other hand, if I do that, then they can never wear them again! I am leaning towards not embroidering them, what do you think?
4. I agreed to a particular type of chair cover with my decorator 5-6 months ago. Since then she has told me that they wont fit! URGHHH. The were very pretty and embroidered with gold thread. She is going to try and fit it with white chair covers instead. But I don’t want white chair covers, not the kind she has anyway. I have white folding chairs, should I just leave 'em bare? We’re doing a lot of lighting, pretty table cloth, etc. Will it look off? I would consider chivari chairs, but they are just crazy expensive, and I will get charged a premium for ordering them now anyway.

I would love to, love to meet you girls. You usually make friends as a consequence of circumstances; your cousins, college roommates, neighbors, classmate, family friend, etc. This is so much more organic. And we’ve just been able to talk. No BS. Its really been great, and heart warming.

Aisha, I know you mentioned it briefly, but you must share some anecdotes from your time away. Maybe funny little stories that we missed.

I had a meeting this weekend and a good friend was flying back to NYC and her flight got cancelled due to weather so she stayed over for two extra nights. I really, really love her. But it is like my last week at home, and I wish I could have just had the time with my family. I didn’t know how to tell her. But she’s great, and its all good. Despite my moving, I love having her over. We went and visited a friend who is a teacher at a nearby school and I thought of you Aisha! I had fun with the students and played some games with them. They were very receptive towards me.

There is something so gratifying about sharing and obtaining knowledge. I think that’s what we, as humans, were meant to do. To increase our aql. It is absolutely a very noble profession Aisha, and I have a lot of respect for you.

Reha, how are you? Where are those pictures? Have you made any big decisions yet? What about your mayoun outfit? Is PF still making it? I get my lengha in a few days, so I will give you a full and candid review. And why are you talking about food I am so jealous! I have heard Taste of Chicago is the best “taste” in the country. I really, really, really love FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD! Reha you’re not going to loose your vanity pounds by eating all that stuff yanno?

I have laser hair removal tomorrow It’s painful. But I want to be hair freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee for my wedding!

When we have our meeting lets do a spa day and EAT AND EAT AND EAT AND EAT AND EAT! We could do a little shopping too I hope we can keep this up. Soon we will be talking about Aisha’s wedding. And getting back in the work force (maybe we get along so well 'cause we’re all unemployed? LOL!) And then it will be children and what to cook tonight.

This thread could be epic, right?

Its okay Mina…stress is normal right now and if I were you, I would start to hit the treadmill for a few minutes. It might relieve your anxiety, if you have any. Other then that, dont worry. I know all will go well. Think of him and what you have to look forward to, everything will be fine. Inshallah.

• For the court marriage, wear a simple white dress. Its a civil ceremony, so you dont have to go all out so wear something you can use again.
• For the train, see if you can hook it to the back of your lehnga in a way where it wont be dragging on the floor under other peoples’s shoes. They have that on American dresses too where the train hooks up in the back without looking messy. Take it to a bridal store and see what they can do with it. It sounds fabulous!!! I cant wait to see you all dolled up Mina.
• Dont embroider the shirts. Leave them as is otherwise they will end up in a pile somewhere. If they’re unembroidered, your bridesmaids will be able to really appreciate them because they’ll be wearing them again and again.
• I have to do chair covers (the banquets chairs are not nice) but Ill be honest about something. I hate sitting chair covers. They’re slippery and no fun. If you have nice white chairs that dont compromise the formality of the occasion then leave them. If they seem too casual, dress them up.

Im doing good Mina. Im so glad we’re back! My mayun outfit will most probably be made from Pak also now. One of my family members offered to take care of it for me so I started to send pics of what I want. Inshallah, it will come out fine. Mina, all I can do is dreeeeeeeeeeeeeam about food right now. I cant eat a thing. I have to look like a million bucks so Im determined. I have some European chocolate stashed in my closet that I am not touching at all.

We can do a spa trip! Some place fun where we can just hang out and forget the world and calories. Have a weekend of amazing FOOD and girl talk and shopping. And Aisha, your wedding will be a fun one…all of us will be here to help and we can even do our Guppy meet so we can see you! Inshallah Inshallah Inshallah.

I wonder how many posts this thread could hold? Regardless, I plan on sharing it all with you girls. Can you imagine sharing pregnancies? Life? Kids? So many memories and we can be here for each other through it.

Im excited to have met you girls.