Every relationship had issues, and we had ours. It?s not something we couldnt overcome. Our intimacy slowly started getting better, but wasnt healed completely. You don?t just walk out of a good realtionship, thats my point, and thats why im so hurt.
i never took him for granted and always treated him with respect and had mutual admiration and love for each other.
All these love feelings are not so sudden just because he is leaving
I suggested that, a little time apart but he said no. He went straight into divorce and hasnt look back since.
Yes because at the end of the day, he is my husband and i love him to pieces
I’ve been married 10 years now, so I understand all the sorts of issue that couples go through. The thing is, it’s only in your mind that it’s not something you couldn’t overcome. There seems to be a huge disconnect between you and he clearly doesn’t see the relationship the same way you do.
You don’t want to be with someone who isn’t fully committed and that’s not something I’m saying based on what’s happening now but from all your previous threads.
precisely, he wants to enjoy this life to the fullest, variety is spice of life
If I were in your place his actions would feel like a slap in the face. Others have mentioned some great advice. I ask Allah to help you sort through this bump on the road of your journey with ease and dignity, Ameen.
This. Like I said before, the swiftness with which he called it quits and got himself a lawyer without giving you an explanation is just that: a slap in the face.
Give it some time and I’ve a feeling those rose-tinted glasses will come off.
come on yaar, guy is bored, ran out of love, found someone else etc etc, happens, be positive and look to the future, you may find someone better
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I guess time is the best healer, but i do believe some things just stick with you. Not sure how i can trust someone else, when the one person i firmly believed would never do this, is doing it aka leaving me.
I am really sorry to read this 
I like the idea of taking a small break from each other to see if time apart can help put things into perspective. It seems like you’ve suggested just about everything and he is refusing to consider it? I know it hurts A LOT but remember that you’re not alone. Allah is always with you and this is the time to really put your faith in him and let him do his work. Pray for the best outcome for the both of you - whatever that is - and leave the rest to him.
I hav eveen praying alot. And nothing has changed to how i want it, but instead proceeding closer to divorce
I don?t think he has even told his family yet
I’m praying for you. I hope you find solace in these times where nothing seems right.
The more you pester him the more he will feel aggravated. Things won’t happen overnight and I suggest you let things be for now. I know you will get a chance to talk and until then get things in control from your side. Feel emotionally stable in this time and figure out what you will do.
Is there anyone you can talk to in person? Also be strong enough until your parents get back because talking to them about this will be a whole other situation.
so you are saying he went nuts…and don’t want to do anything with you… and there is no reason?
A bit harsh, even if you are married for 10 years, doesnt make you an expert to give advice on divorce issues.
I have stopped trying to getting him to change his mind, cuz thats not happenimg.. i have no emotional stability right now .. i just, am not looking forward to the future.. trust is a big issue i will face and my confidence in myself is already going down.
I go through episodes of anxiety and extreme sadness. I spend all day in bed when not at work
Cant helped but wonder was he bottling up his emotion and waiting for the appropriate time since he is doing when your parents are away
Was there a argument where it’s like that’s it no more?
since he is no longer interested in talking over it
You have to toughen up especially when your parents or his parents get to know of it
It doesn’t matter what was the reason as usually it’s assumed to be the women’s fault
Try not to get what people will say into your heart
Love is a very rare thing, I have seen many die without ever being loved so losing someone’s love is the worst loss in life.
I never said I was an expert. It was to clarify that I understand the issues one faces when being married for an extended duration. I also never gave any advice, just commented on her situation. Clearly they do not feel about things the same way otherwise there would not be such a chasm between them.
So, what’s your problem?