So PCG’s post’s have got me thinking. What would you say about a guy who was twice divorced (two girls in PK, but divorced during the visa process) AND had a kid out of wedlock with a non-desi person???
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OMG...your imagination ran wild today for sure! hehe
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That he's bad news ?
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Once divorced could understand...twice divorced he is surely to be blamed. Kid out of wedlock means he is guilty of zina means he is from the lowest of the low. Secondly would sure like to know what Desi means? Ive heard of Desi murghi and desi ghee...now we have desi people too?
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… I would call him a Qismat ka maara hua 
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Yikes.
Well, I talked to a guy once who was divorced three times. And had a kid. Who he refused to pay child support for because he felt the ex-wife took enough as it was during the divorce that she should feed herself and take care of the kid herself. And there was a restraining order on him. For beating her.
I am too nice. :(
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Oh my god PCG, where do these types of characters come into your life from?!? I've never come across any of the kinds of scenarios you have in your days. Even with all the girls married in my family, neverr
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PCG one day you should start writing about your encounters in detail. The book will sell like hot cake and may be used for a new soap serial. Who knows you start getting attention like Malala and one day be nominated for Nobel prize and may even get the opportunity to speak at UN general assembly. Imagine Bilawal Zardari sending tweets about your courage and resilience and may offer you the post of Pak ambassador in USA when he becomes PM one day.
PS: The above lines are written just for fun and are NOT a personal attack on kind soul, i.e. PCG.
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Would you marry a guy who is divorced from one Pakistani, one Half-Pakistani and one Gori, bets at horse races, adores Russian women, drives a Japanese car and drinks German beer?
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^no. Seems unreliable and irresponsible since he likes to bet and may end up losing all his money due to his possible addiction.
Plus he drinks.
You guys have wild imaginations lol.
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OMG...your imagination ran wild today for sure! hehe
Lol!!! I wish I had imagined it. Now how do I kindly say write and say nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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The interesting scenarios PCG has come across aren't terribly uncommon. I've actually come across some rather odd situations as well (though not personally but through friends of mine and other acquaintances). One such situation includes:
-A friend of mine was dating (not quite dating in the western sense though) an Afghan gentleman she met through some friends at uni. According to her, what attracted her to him was that he was quite open minded and rather liberal, independent (in other words, free from parental meddling), living on his own, paying his own way through uni and was basically self made. After about a year and a half and about to get engaged, she learns that he's already married. Apparently, his parents insisted on him getting married (quite young, he was 18-19 at the time and is now 26) to the daughter of a family friend and he basically agreed - except that he moved out shortly after the wedding and basically got on with uni and life as if nothing had happened. The poor girl lives with his parents, who don’t seem mind to the situation.
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Yikes.
Well, I talked to a guy once who was divorced three times. And had a kid. Who he refused to pay child support for because he felt the ex-wife took enough as it was during the divorce that she should feed herself and take care of the kid herself. And there was a restraining order on him. For beating her.
I am too nice. :(
Omg pcg he told u all that himself? Restraining order and beating. He can still put a spin on the not paying child support part but how can u put a positive spin on Beating his wife? And he expected u to say yes after that. Did he tell u what the other divorces were for? And how do these ppl with restraining orders and battery charges find wives? And then u have all those normal ppl out there who can't find rishtas! This stuff is just beyond me!
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And how do these ppl with restraining orders and battery charges find wives? And then u have all those normal ppl out there who can't find rishtas! This stuff is just beyond me!
By lying about it and trying to spin it in their favour (i.e. "I didn't really abuse her..she made that up to screw me over in court") or by concealing it altogether. And then, of course, there are the naive girls who believe them and go on to marry them.
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Omg pcg he told u all that himself? Restraining order and beating. He can still put a spin on the not paying child support part but how can u put a positive spin on Beating his wife? And he expected u to say yes after that. Did he tell u what the other divorces were for? And how do these ppl with restraining orders and battery charges find wives? And then u have all those normal ppl out there who can't find rishtas! This stuff is just beyond me!
I don't know, maybe you can PM him and ask.
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I don't know, maybe you can PM him and ask.
Omw, so it's someone on here? That's crazy.
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The interesting scenarios PCG has come across aren't terribly uncommon. I've actually come across some rather odd situations as well (though not personally but through friends of mine and other acquaintances). One such situation includes:
-A friend of mine was dating (not quite dating in the western sense though) an Afghan gentleman she met through some friends at uni. According to her, what attracted her to him was that he was quite open minded and rather liberal, independent (in other words, free from parental meddling), living on his own, paying his own way through uni and was basically self made. After about a year and a half and about to get engaged, she learns that he's already married. Apparently, his parents insisted on him getting married (quite young, he was 18-19 at the time and is now 26) to the daughter of a family friend and he basically agreed - except that he moved out shortly after the wedding and basically got on with uni and life as if nothing had happened. The poor girl lives with his parents, who don’t seem mind to the situation.
That's just sad for everyone involved, except the guy maybe I don't know. How did he agree to marry the girl in the first place?
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That's just sad for everyone involved, except the guy maybe I don't know. How did he agree to marry the girl in the first place?
That's what I've never understood. I've heard of cases where people agree to get married even though it's not what they want so that their family doesn't stop speaking to them and for the sake of family and I can somewhat understand that but in his case I don't see the point in agreeing to marry the girl since he still ended up not speaking to his family by HIS own choice anyway. From what he and other people have said, he's only been to see his parents twice in the 6 years since he got married (and moved out), so I really don't understand the logic there. What I find especially disturbing is the fact his parents don't seem find anything wrong with the dysfunctional arrangement (since he does support his "wife" financially). Madness.
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That's what I've never understood. I've heard of cases where people agree to get married even though it's not what they want so that their family doesn't stop speaking to them and for the sake of family and I can somewhat understand that but in his case I don't see the point in agreeing to marry the girl since he still ended up not speaking to his family by HIS own choice anyway. From what he and other people have said, he's only been to see his parents twice in the 6 years since he got married (and moved out), so I really don't understand the logic there. What I find especially disturbing is the fact his parents don't seem find anything wrong with the dysfunctional arrangement (since he does support his "wife" financially). Madness.
That's just mind boggling. The girl didn't ask for a divorce knowing that he's not coming back?
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What I find especially disturbing is the fact his parents don't seem find anything wrong with the dysfunctional arrangement (since he does support his "wife" financially). Madness.
Actually, allow me to correct myself. The most disturbing part of all of this is that knowing all of this, my friend is still willing to marry him.