Husbands-StringPuppets-why?

Mirch · August 1, 2009, 1:32am

ok Gulluble i do understand some ppl think the tricks i gave u on other thread r all drama-baazi. but i speak from experience only n i have seen the worst. i’m sure i can write a whole book on it.
i’ll re-emphasize somethings here again
1- if he says say sorry then say sorry even if u r completely innocent( u r doing it to gain HIS trust)
2. never ever talk to ur fil against ur mil, sil or even hubby(he’ll never take ur side)
3. honest communication never works in ur situation. u hav to b diplomatic n tactful. “diamond cuts diamond” & “tit for tat” remeber that
4. do not isolate urself from ur inlaws. keep mingling even if they don’t show u they like it.this is wat they want. they don’t talk u talk. they don’t reply u don’t care. they taunt u smile.( the distant u get the united they’ll b)
5. whenever ur hubby talks in favour of ur mil,sil never ever explain or give ur side of story. listen n agree or stay quiet but say nothing. (saying anything will make no diff at all.)
6. Don’t raise ur kids alone. the more u share them with ur inlaws the better will b for u n them( kids bring ppl together)
7. find ppl inside inlaws that r easy to b friends with. start with them. make them ur buddies n then move ur way up the ladder from there
8. don’t whine inside ur bedroom. only make him happy. do things that strengthen ur bond. don’t waste a min discussing family issues in ur privacy. if he tries hush him with a killing smile n divert him.try new things, massages, fun fights, writing msg on mirror with shaving creams/lipsticks, tell jokes, dance on music watever it takes. the happier he’s from u mentally, emotinally n sexually the more supportive he’ll become

now u might think i want u to live under pressure n b their slave but NO. u r going to b planning for the long run. for bigger Joys u r scarifising small joys.

Dharlay se reho, apni he kero but meethi zuban rekho n jahan jhukna para for the time jhuk jayo. don’t care for ur mil’s mood until ur hubby says so. once he says we won’t do it coz of mom change ur plan. if he feels nothing keep on with ur plan.

bring things to the level where u say nothing but ur husband sees it n takes ur stand urself. it won’t happen right away ,. he might not take ur open stands for yrs to come but u’ll see huge diff.

ur mil n fil won’t live for ever. its u n ur kids who will be with ur hubby at the end.
finally it all boils down to “ager is gher main rehna hai tu” meaning “ager meray saath rehna hai…” so u want him or u want ur mil to win over. u decide.

PS: Read HUSBUN-ALLAH-E-WA-NAIM-UL-WAKEEL, NAIMUL-MAULANA WA NAIM-UN-NASEER all the time.

Brilliant . :k: One needs lot of patience to follow up this long term plan.