Read thoroughly please.
I even suggested in my post that a discussion can take place with the darling MIL present......along with the DIL and her parents.....and her husband.
And I emphasized having a calm discussion........not to point fingers and say that "I'm right, it's my way or the highway". I made the point that a compromise needs to be reached by both parties.
And........did you bother reading Gullible's post? Not only in this thread, but her previous one? If you had read it thoroughly............I'm surprised that you'd hurl the "classic blackmailing" accusation if a girl wants to turn to her parents for support (since she's not getting it from hubby and in-laws). You totally failed to take into account the abuse/blackmailing/manipulation.........that the MIL has been doing.............but didn't hesitate to accuse the bahu of blackmailing if she got tired of the crap and wanted help from her parents.
At least....I even suggested involving all parties in reaching a compromise. You on the other hand........seem like the kind who would rather that a woman put up with it...and not open her mouth to complain to anyone...not even the people who raised her.
Why do i get the feeling that the Mother in law is held in contempt in this?