I understand that sometimes the daughter-in-law can be the trouble-maker. BUT......in this scenario......if the poster chooses to resort to involving her parents........it's because the hubby and his own mother aren't giving her basic respect.
MILS don't always think of "what goes around comes around".......they don't think to themselves, "Gee, what if MY OWN DAUGHTER was treated like crap by her in-laws." And husbands don't always think "Man, would I want my own sister to be treated like dirt by her in-laws and husband?" or "Would I want my own daughter to be treated like this in the future?"
People have no sharam....no haya.....no FREAKING CONSCIENCE! Why is it blackmailing if a girl turns to her parents? It is the most natural thing in the world. Out of ALL the relationships in the world.......it is your parents/immediate family that a child (son or daughter) should be able to turn to during hardships. It's classic in the sense that it's a very natural thing.
So without looking at the MILS side of the argument you are willing to take your Hubster in front of your parents and proclaiming you're always going to be right? Isn't that double standards velvet?