Re: Husband
Sure love, respect and understanding is the core of a marrige!! And certainly do that. However when I have over a very long time given up on every small and big thing he wanted me to I feel that I have come to a point where my Identity is being lost. I have moved from my country, my Family, my friends, my network. Given up my career. given up every small volunteer effort to help others, given up on my clothing style and so much more. While it might sound superficial to some it does define your lifre quiet a lot. He wants to save money so I gave up shopping New clothes for a long time leading to his relatives taunting me for wearing the same old stuff and him not saying a single Word to them. Yes his relatives are superficial ppl but if he has a high self esteem that he doesnt care about what others say about him to him then he should also be able understand that I have been feeling Down due to his relatives comments and he should say something to them. but not a Word. he is too nervous, he says…but then stay out of my decisions to how I want to dress myself as long as its not haram style!!!
I myself am a very organized person. so your comment that I being a desi dont appreciate organization is simply not valid. My only main issue is that I have given up so micu for him during all these years, and instead of he tries to make me feel appreciated and valued he critisizes quiet a lot while doing stuff at home that makes me feel like I am unable to take care of my home. Of course I appreciate his interest in helping out at home but does a man really have to involve himself in the content and structure of each and every drawer of ALL wardrobes in the house???