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Jazak Allah
i dont need to know about either families unless they want me to know... everyone has the right to privacy...
JazakAllah
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Nope not married; 20 year old university student (By the grace of Allah)
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^ end of discussion then
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anil: sigh Wish u all da best with education and marriage....
Ok lets get some real feedback from some other peeps here
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sorry i couldnt help it!
On a serious note, wife is your life partner and after ALLAH (s.w.t) you are trusting her more than anyone else in ur life. U have to spend rest of ur life with her and no relationship can be successful without the basis of trust in between :k:
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well said emmy 
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I've seen a lot in my twenty years and I know what it means to respect parents and to give them every importance. Hiding major issues from them is a slap in the face. I still say if its important to tell you're wife its important to tell your parents. InshAllah I have every intention of keeping my parents very close to me and I WILL NOT let my wife dictate what I should and shouldn't tell them. My parents come FIRST and she SECOND.
I've said my peace,
Allah Nigeban
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God Forbid after ur parents die, who will u share ur secrets with?If from day one you gonna treat her as a second persona then do u think u will be able to gain her trust afterwards?
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your gona be a good husband! sarcasm
nicee to know that you prioritizing it… i think once u get married, ur wife becomes part of ur family and there is no need to put someone first and someone second! Love everyone equally n dont prioritize!
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and for goodness sakes, stop seeing ur wife as some witch or dictator... give her some respect too, thats the only way u'll get some back. She's not out to ruin u or ur family... make her part of ur own and give her just as much love as u would ur parents..
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All i can add is it comes down to how happy you are in your marriage.
Some people, will be sticking it out, hate each others guts and prefer to tell everyone else about their problems and secrets rather than each other.
Others like you sadzzz, are much happier and can see no sense in not telling each other.
Boils down to each persons situation and no two are the same.
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I hope she does the same then, what goes around comes around, How would you feel if she told her parents more stuff than she told you…for example she got pregnant and the first person she told was her mum? Dont feed me bullcrap about women having this and that think logically ok…TREAT OTHERS HOW YOU WOULD WANNA BE TREATED.
Secondly, don’t tell me you are such a freakin poof that whatever you have done up untill this day you have told your mama! Haha, when you bunked off lesson, or got into a fight, or any small stupid mistake you made you told your mum? Hell no, I bet your closest friends know of any stupid mistakes you have made in the past more than your parents, why do we need to hurt them with our blunders? They are too precious to burden with so much.
YES include them in important matters and ask for their opinion in things, this is so nice for them and will make them feel valued.
BE REALISTIC. Don’t leave your wife as second best, one day when you have kids it may become a very bitter situation. I bet your mum had more say in bringing you up rather than your daadi amma. Nuff said.
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no secrets (if my parents/wife etc dont know about something it simply mean they never asked) even if I had one I won't tell my secret to anyother soul. After all secret is a secret.
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i have no respect for a man who would keep secrets from me, my woh and i have secrets btw us, and our future lives are together..don’t forget your parents are your past (they brought you up as a child) while your spouse is your future inshallah til death part you from each other…
i’m not married yet but my parents don’t know all about my money matters…and i don’t know all about theirs:clown:
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so for your wife remember your kids will come first and you second:D
there will be lots of tensions in anil khan house:bummer:
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well furqan, you enter marriage with love and trust so you must tell her…to make the relationship sane and based on noble grounds!
it’s the best start…inshallah you’lll work hard on your relationship and be happily married ever after…so no divorce, no tension 
if divorce happen…it means one of you or both of you made some mistakes…and have been to slefish for the relationship to work out…
don’t execpt people to think rationally and morally in divorce case…unfortunately divorce is the ruin of the family …because parting a family is a high cost…and divorcee children have the lowest sucess in education statiscally, due to econmic chortcomings and emotional stress…
i think divorce is ruining the children lives to some extent…and it should worry you more than some money secrets…really!
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Anil I think you are too impressed by the soaps on TV. Things are never that bad. After or before marriage, there are a lot of things you don't and can't share with your parents, because of respect or cultural boundaries. I used to share a lot with my parents, but now after marriage I don't as much. Not because my wife is a witch (although my ID may suggest that) and she has cast a spell on me but because I realise that, as they are getting older, even my small worries make them worried a lot and I don't want to see them worried about the small things happening in my life. Depending on the severity, I may or may not share my worries with my wife as well. That does not mean that I respect or love my parents or my wife any less. On the contrary, after marriage and having kids we have started to realise in a new way how selflessly our parents have raised us. We never miss to share a moment of joy with our parents.
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But who says that it’s the wife dictating? You know, I think most people were talking about decisions made by men themselves.
You clearly are making assumptions about the situation that are not present, revealing your own bias. If you go into marriage (or any committed relationship) expecting the worst from the other person and showing little trust or respect for that person, you are already destroying the relationship before it has begun. I hope that you have a chance to gain a little more perspective before you get married. If you go in planning to resent and disrespect your wife, please don’t get married.
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Anil Khan, i think if it's best if you let your future wife to be come visit gupshup once, so she should know what she's getting into, it's only fair for the both of you.
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Yes absolutely. Depends on the relationship.