can a man trust his wife to keep secrets from his family..things like secret property, money, smoking habbits..or whatever..?
lets say, if both get divorced…what should the husband do, if she tries to black mail you and spills the beans to your family about ur secrets?
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hi
let her do whatever she wants to let the truth come out, trust me u will feel so free and alive.
nobody is going to eat u up. if u will show fear it is bound to get u. own your mistakes and secrets afterall u r just human.
u tell the family before she does, maybe not all but some hints perhaps .it will minimize the impact.
hope it helps
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If he was a real MAN he wouldn't keep any secrets from his Parents (siblings I can understand). Trusting your wife more than your parents is a slap in the face to your parents. I have no respect for people who, after marriage, start favouring the wife more than the parents.
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^ theres is nothing wrong in trusting ur wife... it doesnt mean u trust her more than ur parents, its just u find it easier to tell her things more so than ur parents.. its more about communication then trust..
ur spouse (depending on how much u love one another) is always there for u, and hence its easier being able to confide in them then it is with ur parents... I have no respect for people who DONT trust one another.. and dont share personal feelings and secrets..
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ur spouse (depending on how much u love one another) is always there for u, and hence its easier being able to confide in them then it is with ur parents... I have no respect for people who DONT trust one another.. and dont share personal feelings and secrets..
Communication my ASS!!! You're basically saying that its EASIER to tell your wife about stuff like money/investments/property than your parents???
These are the same parents who raised you, cleaned your sh*t, put food on your table and now you're gonna disrespect them by hiding stuff???
Its a load of BULL.
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^ how on earth is it hiding stuff? ur emotionally, intimately, financially involved with this person u share a bed with and ur saying u cant tell them things? Obviously you can tell your parents how well you're doing and if you're in trouble... they're ur family for goodness sakes.. but ur wife is nothing less..
people who give little or no importance to a relationship called marriage should never be married.. if they think that sharing presonal secrets and information with their spouse is disrespecting their parents... well then... i dont know what to say..
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Thats not all true buddy…Dont know which type of family ur coming from but…normal couples do have their own secrets that they keep away from their parents or whatever. I mean if i loved my wife, shed be the first person to know about the stuff i go through everyday. Once u get married and have kids, I think my wife would be the only person i would trust with my good and bad secrets!
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^ If its important enough to tell you're wife its important enough to tell your parents.
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ditto
well said :k:
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Sorry to say but it shows what kind of son you are.
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Couples have their own little secrets that parents don't know about and thats okay; but major issues such as investments and other financial related activity should not be hidden from the parents.
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^ Why do parents need to know about ur loans or credit card history? i dont understand... when i was growing up, my parents never discussed their financial situation with us kids... not even now. Maybe with my brother cus he's living with my parents, but I never thought i should know... why would i want to burden my parents with my financial problems?
and no, what u can tell ur wife or hubby doesnt necessarily have to be shared with the parents... i dont understand how people give no important to their spouse and the relationship... for goodness sakes ur going to be having kids together, ur Inshallah going to spend the rest of ur life with one another... if u cant trust her, then why are u married to her??
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Anail: yea sure buddy...next time i get my monthly statement from my bank..ill make copies and give one to my parents every month also? is that ok? maybe ill tell em how i invested 500 dollars on some low ass stock. sarcasm
Why give them stress or more things to worrry about if they are financialy stable etc...
Anyhow..stick to the topic please
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and no, what u can tell ur wife or hubby doesnt necessarily have to be shared with the parents... i dont understand how people give no important to their spouse and the relationship... for goodness sakes ur going to be having kids together, ur Inshallah going to spend the rest of ur life with one another... if u cant trust her, then why are u married to her??
You're a girl (I'm assuming) and you're married; hence your real family is that of your husbands.
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Why give them stress or more things to worrry about if they are financialy stable etc...
Anyhow..stick to the topic please
My previous comments were made under the assumption that your parents are living with you; that is, an extended family. If you've moved out and you and your wife don't allow your parents to live with you then thats a different matter and hence I can understand where you're coming from.
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I think its very stupid for the woman to do that but not all women would stoop down to that level, do you know what the guy did to make her say something so horrible? :o
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dude..u like to assume things eh? I am not married, and I live in same house as parents, so can we stick to the topic of the thread.
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:halo:
another lame remark…
no, my husbands family is not my “real” family… its my family who i was destined to be a part of.. and my “biological” family is just as important and dear to me.. both are just as special..
no such thing as real and previous family
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^ Agreed; your biological family should be just as important but its not neccessary for you to know everything thats going on with them; whereas it is your business to know what goes on in your new family.
Jazak Allah
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^ anil, are u married or have kids?