Husband Refuses to Pro-create

[Niksik]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

Queer, she can pump na

[CM]

@njgal

let me state for the record that she is also a lawyer and she makes enough for him to stay at home and raise a child. (if need be - they are not going to be on the streets)

Doesn't change the fact that pressuring someone to have a kid - male or female - is wrong.

[njgal]

@queer

i don't know about you, but i'm not hiring a lawyer who is pregnant and will go into labor when my case is in trial.

(that's discrimination)

[QUOTE]

and i don't see how he can stay at home and breastfeed the baby even if he wanted to.
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two words - breast pump

[queer]

@Niksik

Queer, she can pump na

i am no expert, but i don’t think she’s gonna be able to pump a whole day’s supply of milk before she goes to work for 8 hours or whatever it is.

[njgal]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

you have no idea what amazing things a pregnant body can do.

[S02]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

^ Yup, she can. Women do it all the time.

[yourfriend]

@queer

i am no expert, but i don't think she's gonna be able to pump a whole day's supply of milk before she goes to work for 8 hours or whatever it is.

..not just the day... they can store dayS supply too..
and another alternative is formula milk... trust me people do survive on that too...
........

[Niksik]

@queer

i am no expert, but i don't think she's gonna be able to pump a whole day's supply of milk before she goes to work for 8 hours or whatever it is.

When she's on maternity leave, she can freeze extra milk. It will come in handy on a rainy day.

Anyway, I see the guy's perspective here. He probably wants to be the primary breadwinner and that's OK. Not everybody is cool being a stay home daddy although I know a few guys who would love to! he also probably thinks it's unfair to burden his wife with not only a pregnancy but also with the sole responsibility of bringing home the bread. Maybe he was unsure earlier because he wasn't ready...I don't know them so I cannot say, but your friend shouldn't worry about her biologocal clock ticking. She still has a good number of years to go.

She should pray for his rizq, his job, his mental peace instead of becoming anxious...of course she must be doing that already.

[njgal]

@Niksik

She should pray for his rizq, his job, his mental peace instead of becoming anxious...of course she must be doing that already.

She's is doing all that Niksik but also praying the one bugger accidently makes it to her egg :D. She's desperate.

[Niksik]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

It may happen…you never know

[queer]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

i know you all are women and have kids, and i am but a google-pundit. but this is what it says - you can’t pump much milk in one sitting unless you pump/breastfeed frequently and consistently. every once in a while, you can get a days worth of milk if you are breastfeeding regularly and are one of the lucky women whose bodies will let down so much milk in one go. but this cannot be sustained without regular pumping or breastfeeding through the day on most days.

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

LMAO!!! You copy/pasted that, didn't you.

[Niksik]

@queer

i know you all are women and have kids, and i am but a google-pundit. but this is what it says - you can’t pump much milk in one sitting unless you pump/breastfeed frequently and consistently. every once in a while, you can get a days worth of milk if you are breastfeeding regularly and are one of the lucky women whose bodies will let down so much milk in one go. but this cannot be sustained without regular pumping or breastfeeding through the day on most days.

Queer…true. She can’t sit at 6 am before work and pump 24 oz of milk for the entire workday. True. But what I was saying is she can store extra milk everyday so there will always be a supply.

Now can we move these parts to Parenting ???

[Decent_6Chora]

may be he is honest in his assessment about his job. its only a recipe of disaster to get wife pregnant when one is jobless.

give poor guy some time

[MixedBeauty]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

Hes wasting time tbh.. Im sure he'll find work in no time. It takes some time to actually get pregnant (some people) And especially as shes in her 30's might take longer. I would try to explain to him that its best if they start trying now. Nothing better than a beautiful baby :) aww

[Decent_6Chora]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

so if a guy have his own opinion about how to have kid tu he is wasting time?

wow ..... pregnant karey tu mussebat ... na karey tu mussebat .... karey tu kia karey? sex slave samjha hai kia ... k jub main boloon tu pregnant karoo ... jub main boloon tu na karoo !

it should be done with consent of both and guy has every valid reason to NOT do it right now.

[MixedBeauty]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

^ oooooh touchy. I say she has a baby NOW!

[njgal]

Re: Husband Refuses to Pro-create

On a scale from 1 to 10 how pissed would be a guy if you found out that she deliberately sabataged Birth Control?

(concept of asking forgiveness is easier than asking permission)

I guess gaining trust back would be an issue.

[Gina]

@njgal

let me state for the record that she is also a lawyer and she makes enough for him to stay at home and raise a child. (if need be - they are not going to be on the streets)

I think it’s very mature and responsible of him to think the way he thinks. He wants to provide for the baby… no harm in waiting

He’ll make a great father!

[Decent_6Chora]

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@njgal

On a scale from 1 to 10 how pissed would be a guy if you found out that she deliberately sabataged Birth Control?

(concept of asking forgiveness is easier than asking permission)

I guess gaining trust back would be an issue.

if she can have it alone, be my guest or I may say be his guest :D

@MixedBeauty

^ oooooh touchy. I say she has a baby NOW!