Re: husband or slave
Yeah you can do what your elder generation tells you and you might even succeed in ‘controlling’ your husband, but…
if you fail, then you are bound to fail big time!
My wife who is the 2nd youngest in the family was taught exactly the same lessons. She has seen her elder 3 sisters accomplishing it in their marriages so my wife thought every husband is the same and she could do it as well. So she started applying those things on me but I don’t think I am of the type who will give someone an easy ride. So I tried to explain to her that this won’t work so change the tactic and just focus on becoming a good wife instead. She has some other problems too but let’s not change the subject of your post.
Anyway, the lessons she has learnt from her family are so strong that my efforts haven’t made any rationale to her and now a couple of years after the marriage I have accepted that it is impossible for her to give up her wrong thinking. And it is certainly impossible for me to accept that attitude. So the result is that she is on her way out from my life. She has dug a hole for herself and I’ve just stepped out of her way. I’m sure everybody will know when she falls in it.
Oh yes, she’s taking a baby with her as well. Surely she has one massive job on her shoulders to raise him on her own.