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i had "friends" give this kind of advice before i got married.

In one ear, out the other.

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http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/487929-miaan-ko-isharon-pe-nachana.html

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i think quite a few girls enter marriage with exactly this kind of attitude. at least in pakistan. the pre-conceived notions ruin the marriage, and the pleasant experiences & surprises that the experience of marriage can hold.

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Hmmm, so it wasnt gama rays exposure..... It was wife acting weird that transformed Dr banner to Hulk.

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I was thinking more along the lines of Kyun Ki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi (the 10th generation)

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Are they giving you advice/tips for a successful marriage or a successful divorce? :bummer:

A husband should be your other halve, no need to treat him as an enemy facepalm

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That's star4u, err...I mean star+4u.

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yep u r the only one.

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So are your family expecting their daughter in law to behave like that wen she marries their son.. Worst advise ever by parents.! Not a healthy start to a marriage

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husband or slave

I think u should see it from your parents point of view too, you are their daughter and they don't want to see you treated like a doormat which is why they give you this lecture. However you are the better judge about your husband so if you don't like what your parents say just listen to it from one ear and out the other

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thats some pretty awful advice on how to seriously kill your marriage!!!! learn to respect your man, not treat him like an animal! Seriously

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Thank god, this is perhaps the first and hopefuly the last time i m hearing about such ill advice! :nook:

Pls if you or anyone wants a healthy relationship, whether it be of husband and wife or any other, then you gotta get rid of any such super egos :halo:. why wud u marry someone if they r really not worth your appreciation, respect and love?!

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Weird, I'm amazed people that think like this exist.

These people aren't nice people, run a mile! I feel sorry for someone that marrys you and has to mix up with you guys.

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I'm gonna throw in a curve ball on this one ...

Although in the final sermon men are to be protectors who clothe their women and women should be treated nicely by them because they support and honour their husbands ... But the advice given to the OP may be specific to her ...

If she is the kind of kid who is very easy, passive, nice and jubbly and wears her heart on her sleeve and if the hubby is the type to see himself with great importance then it is sometimes good to have a bit of balance. By giving this advice to her they may not mean it to be given so it is taken up 100%, but may be to adjust her a little in that direction.

People have previously said here that "men like the chase" - so to me this is not too different from that position. Perhaps they should have said like this "Be unpredictable as a woman should be - keeps men on their toes" ...

There is nothing wrong in pouring your heart out to your husband as long as it is not done all the time - or he will not appreciate it as much ... a woman can be reminded every day about how beautiful she is and it will only lift her higher, but a man if he is reminded day in and day out about how great his wife views him then he will most likely become immune to the praise.

The advice from her female family members as a whole is not sound, but the advice may have some worthwhile elements. It is always better to make-up after a little tiff, than to have a relationship that is like mundane and monotonous, predictable and so on.

Also, when the men of the family are saying this they are probably joking anyway ... so give a bit of understanding and laugh when they give this "advice" ... also ... note they are not saying DON'T respect your husband - but merely don't let him find out that you may love him to bits ... not that they mistrust him ... but so that you have leverage in your relationship.

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well i think they r definitly putting u on a wrong path the only way u can make someone ur slave is through obedience,love and trust the more u try to suffocate someone the more repulsive he will feel towards u and the more u let go someone the more hell b comfortable of ur presence am i right people

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Also, you can only control YOUR actions in a marriage, noone elses.

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Yeah you can do what your elder generation tells you and you might even succeed in 'controlling' your husband, but.....

if you fail, then you are bound to fail big time!

My wife who is the 2nd youngest in the family was taught exactly the same lessons. She has seen her elder 3 sisters accomplishing it in their marriages so my wife thought every husband is the same and she could do it as well. So she started applying those things on me but I don't think I am of the type who will give someone an easy ride. So I tried to explain to her that this won’t work so change the tactic and just focus on becoming a good wife instead. She has some other problems too but let’s not change the subject of your post.

Anyway, the lessons she has learnt from her family are so strong that my efforts haven’t made any rationale to her and now a couple of years after the marriage I have accepted that it is impossible for her to give up her wrong thinking. And it is certainly impossible for me to accept that attitude. So the result is that she is on her way out from my life. She has dug a hole for herself and I’ve just stepped out of her way. I’m sure everybody will know when she falls in it.

Oh yes, she’s taking a baby with her as well. Surely she has one massive job on her shoulders to raise him on her own.

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:hehe:

main ny tu kabi nahi sunni ye baat kisi sy kabi bhe