am i the only one who gets this lecture from parents?
my parents, grand parents and aunts and uncles always say miyan ko daba ke rakhna, ya dont show that you love him like he means the world to you. and that dont tell your husband everything because he will take advantage of you and phir main hi dabh jaongi poori zindagi uske hi samne. they say that i should make him feel that im better than him, i shouldnt praise him that hes good looking or shouldnt take advice from him about certain things because then my husband might think that hes worth more than me. If hes that bad then why did they get me married to him or to any other man.
Am i the only one who gets this lecture from their family?
i thought so, i guess i should take their advice in one ear and out the other
but parents always want good for their kids and they talk from past experience, so this makes me think that they might be right. But since ive been listening to their advice i have had fights with my hubby. I guess i should ignore them.
Parents have experience for sure but sometimes their own experiences might not be the best. Of course you should make sure you are never treated badly and always respected but you should always treat your husband well and respect him too.
Marriage is not a game to be played like chess in my opinion.
I really don't understand why you would want to do that, and if anything it would cause resentment because of a superior/inferior thing going on. I genuinely feel sorry for guys with wives who follow this advice.
And to answer your question - I don't get this kind of advice from my family.
i dont think this is rite but some people thinks its nice daba ke rahkna and all husband wife relation in which their is no ego, jealousy or any other negative things its pure relation if we think and according to islam obey yur husband as he doing job and all for his wife and children so give him respect ,love
I think husband wife relationship is one of the most beautiful things in the world. Don't spoil it with stuff like that. Nobody understands ur hubby better than you and only you would know how to deal with him. These ready made advices aren't fit for every couple
lol, I thought only friends give this kind of advice.
Instead of keep on taking advice from everyone else, use your brain and your heart. Do what you feel is the right thing to do and what your conscience allow.
Not to forget, your husband does have rights (Islamic rights just like women have all sorts of rights). You will be accountable for them not your parents, friends, siblings or anyone for that matter. Be fair.
